the death of a friend

This is going to come as a bit of a suprise.....yet it won't if you pretend you don't know yourself and read your sharepost and notice the amount of times death is mentioned. You have unresolved grief issues...this is causing your depression ....the recent death of your friend has triggered the grief/loss/abandonment emotional response that occurred early in your life .... may be in the first 7 years... you have probably repressed this memory .... but it will surface if it has not already done so... every loss/death/bereavement has linked-in to this one event early in your life through your emotional response. The incident was traumatic in that left unresolved the associated emotions are screaming to be heard....your mind has protected you from the event by shutting down the memory and then when the emotions are retriggered in the absence of the original memory and the emotions are not being addressed the brain says "sensory overload...need to protect....and shuts down" (depression- bit like a thermostat on a boiler...when the temperature rises above a threshold it shuts off) which is understandable...the "cure" however is to express your emotions ... pay attention to them ... and RELEASE them. I have given some ideas about how to do this to others in the community so hopefully you can track these down .... if not then send me a message and I'll give you the same info. Hope this is helpful...please do let me know whether or not this is of any help.

Hypno

Hi there

Well first of all let me say how sorry I am for all of your losses.  I can't even imagine dealing with so much grief.  It seems that when there is a loss...it magnifies every other loss you have experienced.

Was your recent poem about this friend who just died?

Would it help to talk about her?

Tell us how we can best support you.  All we have are words but...sometimes they can help a little.

Thank you for reaching out here.