My brothers SIL had a 20yo son pass away in Dec from a drug overdose. I went to the wake although it was very hard and I dont know that I was any help to her at the time. She was also handling everything as best she could and probably doesnt remember much of anything that went on dur...
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Comforting a Mom
Judy
Monday, June 08, 2009 at 06:52 AM -
Just speak from the heart...
Merely Me
Monday, June 08, 2009 at 04:02 PMIt sounds like you are beacon of light for this woman...I think that you should just write whatever you feel in your heart...imagine you in her place and what might help. I agree with Judy that...just telling her that you are there for her is probably the best thing to say.
Your compassion will show in your words.
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Hi. I've never lost a child, but my oldest did try twice to kill himself and it was a very close call the first time. I know what helped me the most was very simple - people who said, in one way or another, that they were there for us if we needed anything. Maybe down the road she will want to talk about it in more detail and you may be the one she'll open up to because you've taken the initiative to offer her some comfort. I don't think you have to say a lot, just remind her that you're there. You've done a very good thing and isn't it nice when we get good feedback about our efforts? You have probably helped her a lot more than you realize and God bless you for it.