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How to Boost Your Positivity

Jerry Kennard Health Pro January 23, 2013
  • How is it that a single sour event can appear to throw a wet blanket over an otherwise happy time? Unless you’re a Teflon coated optimist the sad fact is negativity affects us far more strongly, cuts deeper and lasts longer than positivity. There’s a glue-like quality to negativity that c...

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  • Donna-1
    Jan. 26, 2013

    Like many others here, I wage a daily battle against negative thoughts.  Is it possible to be depressed w/o them?  Sometimes there is a kind of physical depression -- my body and brain are tired, there may be a sense of boredom that goes beyond having no plans for the day, I don't want to do things that need to be done.  And other...

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    Like many others here, I wage a daily battle against negative thoughts.  Is it possible to be depressed w/o them?  Sometimes there is a kind of physical depression -- my body and brain are tired, there may be a sense of boredom that goes beyond having no plans for the day, I don't want to do things that need to be done.  And other times I think I talk myself into a mental state of depression by dwelling on perceived failures...and the body follows.  But it all leaves me wishing I felt and thought otherwise.

     

    I have a friend who tells me I just need to go to a herbalist and take "natural" supplements and I'll feel fine.  Another tells me to start making a list every morning of all I have to be grateful for, and I'll feel fine.  I have a doctor who says take x-y-z prescription medications and I'll feel fine.  I have a therapist who tells me to face my fears and I'll overcome depression.  A family member tells me I just need a full time job and 2 kids and I won't have time to be depressed!  But what is the answer for me?

     

    I think I really know my own answer.  But it seems so selfish, I'm almost afraid to admit it to myself.  I certainly can't discuss it with significant others.  Honestly, there are some big life changes I'd like to make but they would not be without sacrifice, hard work, ignoring naysayers, and would require bucking family tradition.  Am I saying, then, that my depression is due to not going for what I truly want? 

     

    Positive words give me a big boost, they really do.  I have a Pinterest board that is nothing but encouraging, uplifting words.  After reading what I've collected there, courage and a measure of fortitude come to the surface.  But the moment I turn away, hopelessness is there again.  I would say it has taken courage to get this far, so why can't I find the courage just to press on a little further?  Maybe I need to go back to when things were really, really bad and figure out what I did to get better.

    • Jerry Kennard
      Health Pro
      Jan. 27, 2013

      Sounds like a lot of soul searching going on Donna. I guess no amount of positive words or thoughts are likely to do much more than act as a temporary fix if you suspect the real answer to a problem requires some pretty fundamental changes in your life.

       

      I'm sure we've all had the experience of well-intentioned people spooning out advice. So many 'solutions'...

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      Sounds like a lot of soul searching going on Donna. I guess no amount of positive words or thoughts are likely to do much more than act as a temporary fix if you suspect the real answer to a problem requires some pretty fundamental changes in your life.

       

      I'm sure we've all had the experience of well-intentioned people spooning out advice. So many 'solutions' are served up like those gum machines: turn the handle and another drops out. It probably says a lot about our general lack of insight into complex conditions, or a lack of willingness to engage in taboo and frightening topics. I wonder if you're reaching a point where you've exhausted these wisdoms and see possible solutions? The dilemma of course is the cost-benefit side of things - something else to wrestle with.

       

      Jerry

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