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How Positive Strokes Strengthen Relationships

Jerry Kennard Health Pro January 28, 2013
  • There are any number of ways we can deflate, deprive or disadvantage the positive moments expressed by another person, and as many reasons, conscious or otherwise, why this might happen. In any relationship the way a partner chooses to respond to good, bad or even mediocre news can have a big and las...

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  • Crystal
    Jan. 28, 2013
    I feel very fortunate to have a very supportive, caring and kind husband. He is a great listener, a great shoulder to cry on and compliments often. He even says good job when I have done something and points it out to me so that I will recognize, that I should pat myself on the back. He has so much patience with me and I am so lucky.
  • Judy
    Jan. 28, 2013

    Yes, it certainly doesn't take any more effort to make a positive comment.  I think criticality can become a kind of passive-aggressive habit and maybe reflects what's going on inside the one making the comment.  If you get enough of that from your partner, it feels like less hassle just to say nothing rather than risk a "smart" remark.  I grew...

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    Yes, it certainly doesn't take any more effort to make a positive comment.  I think criticality can become a kind of passive-aggressive habit and maybe reflects what's going on inside the one making the comment.  If you get enough of that from your partner, it feels like less hassle just to say nothing rather than risk a "smart" remark.  I grew up in a house like that - it doesn't take long to figure out that there's not much you do that's worth much and that you seem to only have the ability to make people angry.  It's too bad people can't see what effect their words have, usually until either a blow-up occurs or it's too late to save the relationship.  It takes a strong will to not succumb to the negative comments and let them dampen your mood.