Hi Crystal,
Well, you seem to have a good insight into your situation so I wonder if you might be a bit more open to change than you think. You also identify the big issue in therapy and that is working with core beliefs. These can be quite rigid and stubborn and when it comes to therapy, certain of these beliefs become massive hurdles and seem impossible to jump. It can give rise to another belief that this is your nature - fixed and bolted into the concrete!
It's true that certain kinds of therapy aren't as effective for some people and there may be any number of reasons for this. Lack of progress (if I can call it this) may be down to some very simple things and it can be worth going right back to basics. So if I ask the question, what is it you want from therapy? Can you answer easily and has it changed from when you started. Maybe the goals being set are just too big or complex to achieve - or maybe there's a reason you aren't achieving them or not sustaining the momentum? All points for personal reflection, but I must say I think there's potential for change in most people if only we can identify the motivators or the blocks to change.
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With a fixed mindset I could not help myself - therapy was not working: ‘What will happen to me if I change?’ Anxiety was high.
By changing to a flexible mindset, I have been able to help myself and I no longer fear change. Less anxiety and therapy works fine.
Hi Cheryl,
Your comment about anxiety and fixed mindsets is very accurate. There's a certain amount of concern over failing to do what is 'required' of therapy, as though it might be some kind of test or personal challenge. As you say, freeing up your mind to other possibilities that don't include elements of win-or-lose, achieve-or-fail, gives much more scope for allowing new possibilities.
Thanks for contributing a comment and adding to the discussion.
Jerry