Husband out of control

By Connie Sunday, December 02, 2007

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My husband wants to do things that do not agree with our lifestyle. I told him that this is something we have to agree to as a couple since it's a lifestyle change. The problem is he doesn't want to hear what I have to say and do what he wants. He's being very angry and distant.

What do I need to tell my husband to make him understand that I'm here for him no matter what? But at the same time, how can I get him to release his anger and talk it out till we come to an agreement? He's being totaly irrational. It's been a roller coaster ride for a while now and if there are any other tips you could offer to the wife of depression that would be really helpfull. Thanks. Connie

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Sherry

12/ 6/07 5:54pm

That's what I was going through before my divorce. My therapist said leaving was the right thing to do.

Good luck... I sometimes wonder if I would've been better off and should have stayed and been his slave.

Time will tell...

Athar

12/31/07 6:45pm

Hi Connie,

We need more details for us to share with you our humble experience with our husbands, for example what kind of things your husband wants to do that's out of your life style? We all been there, we let somethings go, and we stood up against other things.

Divorce, in my opinion, should be the resort only when every other solution or attempt had failed. We need more details to help you because sometimes the solutions are under our nose but we can't see it.

Good luck and Happy New Year.

Athar

Anonymous

1/ 2/08 10:35am

I really liked your comment. Well, he likes to hang out in bars and clubs. And most of the times he wants to go alone. I made it very clear that it is against my will and therefore a violation of our marriage and me. I dont know if this concept is penetrating. He doesnt see anything wrong and that's all that matters to him. I have made myself very clear and we'll see what happens.

michelle

1/ 9/08 2:59pm

Hi Connie I am 34 and have been with my husband for 14 years. Looking back hes been up and down for most of the time. One day he would get up and put the dog to sleep, then jump on areoplane to other side of world get there and want to come home. His mum has just died and she didnt trat him well as a child. I have had a terrible time for weeks he drank took cannabis and his dead mums tablets. I have had strangers and friends telling me hes lost it. Ive had schools on phone over his behaiour etc I have tried to keep my self sane. He then moved into dead mums home wanting our kids there at all cost I was hated by him and not allowed to mums funeral. He has taken all his anger out on me and has been very nasty at times. 5 months have passed and i just leave him alone hes alot calmer now and has stoped the drinking and drugs. At times i have felt very alone through this he has been a good husband and farther and provided well. I do wish you all the best sometimes you have to let these depressed people get on with what they want to do i have learnt that you can control yourself but not your partner you can walk away and turn your back if you are important enough he will eventually come to you if he dosnt his loss. Over the years i have tried to control my husband in drink dreaded family events when i finally told him do what you want it has nothing to do with me he stopped and joined the gym. Alot of people say leave him but fortunately they havnt been through this.

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