After meeting with the therpist, I feel more depressed than I have in a little while. It just felt so bad the whole time. And has each time.
She says nothing. She stares nonstop at me and I feel I cannot breathe. She just does not validate or ask any follow up questions. Like she is not there...maybe she is dissociated, lol. Her eyes do not look compassionate and she does not really seem to be present either...
She is very defensive. I asked if she does not like questions and if others do not ask her questions. She said, no, no one does. And that she does not like them outside of therapy either.
She did not ask me questions. If I talked, I talked. If I stopped, she stared at me nonstop without saying a word.
When I asked her about something once, she said, we have been over that, in that rude condescending tone, and it is rude enough to say that instead of perhaps think, well maybe she was dissociated and didn't remember... and didn't answer my question. And by the way, she did not answer the first time.
She makes me really feel bad. Very bad.
I am still wondering why on Earth she would volunteer to do this and act this way.
I did ask her what her children would say about her...since she did not tell me much of anything about herself...she said they would say she was partly a good mother and partly a bad mother. I just don't care for her and she really made me feel bad.
I don't like her at all. Most therapists seem they have made an effort to be nice. This one really seems unkind to me...and I think it is because she kind of sees me as someone she can be that way to...I don't really know...
She seems very unsupportive and actually I felt emotionally abused. I have felt that with some other therapists/psychiatrists but it has been a while. My psychiatrist now is fine and respectful.
Very bad experience.
Now the one that I was with before, was not the best fit, temperament wise...but I felt good after talking with her, at least not bad. She was supportive and kind. She was just very extroverted and I am quiet and I wanted a more quiet, calm person.
I just feel depressed right now.


Oh my
You shouldn't feel worse after seeing your therapist. This isn't a good sign. We aren't there with you so we don't know all that goes on but staring and not talking or not asking you any questions would freak me out. It is almost like she is examining you like a bug under a looking glass or as some sort of project.
Were you direct in how she is making you feel? Is there any possibility that this could be some transference going on? Does she feel like a cold mother?
If you have any hopes that this may change and work out...maybe be direct with your feelings and see what happens. Otherwise...if you are feeling worse...maybe this one is not right for you.
We are not going to mesh with every therapist. You need someone with whom you feel comfortable and that you trust.
I am so sorry this has been a bad experience for you so far. But please don't give up...you say you have found good people in the past...and you can do so again. Trust your instincts. If your gut is saying this isn't right...it probably isn't. But ultimately this is your decision alone. Nobody can make it for you.
Let us know what happens.
MM
sorry to be a nuisance but is there a help page for posting questions i cant post a question sorry this is soooo off topic but i just cant find anything so i have posted it on sharepost
sorry again too take ur page over anyone help plzzzzzz if u know where the troubleshoot or conatct us or something so i can find out why i cant post a question ty ty ty
I think doing a sharepost is just fine; it doesn't matter.
The Blue Bar above, mouse over, Our Community, and several options appear.
One of them is, Ask A Question, just click on that and another page with a question box will appear and you can type your question and post it. It may be slow for it to appear.
I just tried it. If you are having trouble doing that, post another sharepost and they will try to help. Don't worry, they like shareposts too.
Thanks MM...I don't feel well physically right now...so much stress...but when I feel better, I will look again