Now I realize quite well that decisions often can get me feeling stuck. And feeling stuck, afraid to decide and paralyzed leads to depression.
When it seems I have many to make and just don't seem to know which ones to make.
I read recently one way to choose is to just choose the one that is health enhancing instead of health negating. It sounds so easy and yet I feel like pulling my hair out over many decisions.
One right now is my cat....keep Burt or find another good home for him. He stresses Emma and me out. Wait a few more months?
Another is send the email requesting the refund for my mother to the 'crazy camp'? or not? or wait?
Another is get a cheap apartment and live there until I can get disability or go back to work, or take the offer of the home from my parents?
Another is see the therapist I saw last week and felt so awful again and try meeting with her outside in a park as she and I talked about, look up more, try to find a needle in a haystack one that specializes in disociative disorders, wait to hear from the old one....?
Decisions are very hard for me. How do you tell which are health enhancing? Maybe I will make a list of the health enhancing benefits and health negating effects of each one..
Decisions can really trip me up, get me so aggravated and confused...I so wish I had some really good family memers, friends or mentors I could call right away when I am having trouble...I do have some, but just don't like to bother them too much....I need a therapist who can help me with this
Hey Marishka
Well you probably know what I am going to say. We really can't tell you what to do about any of these things because this is your life not ours.
If it helps to make a list of pros and cons of each choice...that may help. You won't know about any decision until...you make it. And waiting is a choice as well.
What is the risk of each decision? Are you afraid of choosing badly? What is the fear which is holding you back on each of these things?
If you ask for a refund for example...what is the worst thing that could happen?
You have to remember that you have made decisions in the past and that you can do it again.
Maybe write down...If I choose to ask my parents for money to keep living here...then....? If I choose to look for a new therapist then....?
I have a tough time with decisions too. It comes down to being afraid to make a mistake. But that is life...we cannot avoid all decisions due to fear or we aren't living.
Let us know what happens. You can do this!