postpartum support groups??

By unknownencounter Sunday, October 17, 2010

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So I know I have postpartum depression... I've had it since my daughter was about a month old, more or less.... I am 19 years old, and she was born Jan 21.. Bout 2 weeks after my bday... I used to be the kind of person who never wanted kids, and who never really liked kids, either.... but I was married, and wanted to make my spouse happy, so i in turn, tried getting pregnant, and evidentally succeeded.... My daughter is almost 9 months old..... I was in therapy for a small while, but it wasn't helping... All it was really doing, was making me angry... What I wanna know, is if a support group would help, or if I should stick with therapy, or go to a church for help, or what? I'm kinda lost, and my postpartum is slowly getting worse, i think.... At least, it feels that way... In any case, I'm also going through a divorce, and I have absolutely no clue what to do, or what will help, or anything...

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Judy

10/18/10 5:55pm

Hi, there. I'm sorry you're having a tough time of things right now. I don't know if you would be able to find any support groups to suit your circumstances here, but I think therapy could help. Just ask yourself if you were angry because the therapist was challenging you with things you didn't want to hear, or was totally "not getting" where you're at. If it was the latter, I'd suggest finding a different therapist.

I was in a similar position - I already had one child and really didn't want another, but my husband did and I went along with him. I ended up several years later quite depressed and part of it was anger at myself for having a child when I didn't want one, plus feeling guilty about it. Well, that was over 30 years ago and I've gotten over it, but therapy did help. Keep trying, I'm sure you could use the support, too, while going through the divorce. Maybe you could find a support group, as well, for single moms or whatever sounds helpful to you.

I wish you all the best and hope you can soon find some peace.

Merely Me, Health Guide

10/18/10 6:09pm

Hi there

As I read your story I can't help but think...you are so young. This is the time of having fun and finding yourself and you are already a mom and that is such an incredible responsibility. And now with a divorce looming...this must be so very stressful for you.

May we ask...what is it about your current therapy which is making you angry? Do you think you might need another therapist or is it the one on one relationship which doesn't work for you? And have you been prescribed any medication? Do you have any supports as in friends or family?

I am wondering if this is going beyond post partum depression now and is simply...depression. All that matters though, is that you are attempting to seek help and this is an excellent first step. I would continue with your therapy and add on a support group.

I cannot vouch for any of the links I am about to give you. I simply researched on-line.

The Online PDD Support Group

Postpartum Progress

Mother to Mother Telephone Support

I am really hoping that you do find something which helps. If one thing doesn't work out...keep trying. And you can always write here and we will respond.

Let us know if we can be of further assistance.

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