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Misconceptions about Depression

By marja Tuesday, September 09, 2008


Christian psychiatrist and author, Dwight L. Carlson, writes, "There are legions of God-fearing Christians who - to the best of their ability - are walking according to the Scriptures and yet are suffering from emotional symptoms. Many of them have been judged for their condition and given half-truths and clichés by well-meaning but ill-informed fellow believers. ‘Pray for God's forgiveness,' some are told. ‘A person who is right with the Lord can't have a nervous breakdown.'"


Fortunately, I have not been treated in this way. The church congregations I've belonged to have been understanding, yet the stigma continues. It hurts me deeply that Christians who should be compassionate are often judgmental. Church communities need to learn the medical basis for mental disorders and how that differs from the spiritual. They are in the best position to help those in crisis. But when they don't understand, they are in danger of doing a lot of damage. For Christians, there is nothing worse than to be told our emotional problems are our own fault, the result of unconfessed sin. We suffer so much already. Having to shoulder blame multiplies our mental anguish.

 

Dwight L. Carlson, Why do Christians Shoot Their Wounded? Helping (Not Hurting) Those With Emotional Difficulties,(InterVarsity Press, 1994)

 

 

Marja Bergen has lived with bipolar disorder for over forty years. Her mission is to dispel the lingering stigma attached to mental health conditions and to encourage people to lovingly welcome the sufferers into congregations by understanding them better and supporting them in practical ways. She is the author of Riding the Roller Coaster (Northstone, 1999) and a just-released book, A Firm Place to Stand: Finding Meaning in a Life with Bipolar Disorder (Word Alive). Marja is the founder of the growing faith-based support group, Living Room (www.livingroomsupport.org). Check her website at www.marjabergen.com.

 

 

 

 

Merely Me, Health Guide
9/ 9/08 7:42am

Oh Marja...so glad you are here!  Your message is so important and I am so happy you are getting it out there.  I have a couple of posts in line discussing stigma so your message is well timed.  Please do stay and write and share more with us.  And I also wanted to tell you that Health Central also has a bi-polar site as well.  Please keep writing...we are listening!

Vicki M, Editor
9/11/08 11:50am

Marja,

 

Thank you so much for posting this!! I am a deep believer in God, but I also know that mental illness is not God's way of punishing people, nor is God the complete answer when someone is suffering with mental illness. There are several people who just recently posted their disappointment with the lack of knowledge and compassion when seeking help from their church ministers. Your posting and the excerpts from your book will go far in helping people manage those who just don't know better what to say when someone is in a depressive state. Thank you again for sharing. I will certainly recommend your shareposts as required reading!

Vicki M

2/21/11 12:21pm

Hello, this gives so many that feel hopeless hope, thanks for being a  pioneer and getting your info out there, I went through a debilitating depression when I was 26 on top of loosing everything i held dear.  I didn't know anything about depression, so i didn't know how to reach out becaue I though i just didn't have enough faith. I though God was punishing me for my past sins and I was extrememly Isolated from family, on top of all that I was taking care of my son by myself and just had my youngest son. He was about 5 months old when I checked myself in to a hospital, nothing has been the same since. still putting the pieces back together. this all took place in 2009.Embarassed

2/21/11 12:46pm

Thank you sug19, for your comment. I was surprised this morning to receive it, since I've done nothing on this site for a very long time. Sounds like you've had a tough road, and I wish you all the best. It can only get better, eh?

 

You know now that it wasn't a lack of faith that was to blame, don't you? It's only another illness, after all, that happens to affect your brain and your thinking. Please keep believing that God will help you through this and don't stop trusting Him. And there's something good that can come out of the trials in your life. They can transform you and make you stronger in the end.

2/21/11 5:03pm

Nowhere, in the Bible, does it say Christians will be free from depression. In fact, there are, numerous, references to "trials" and "tribulations". God sends rain and, apparently, depression on the just and unjust. The advantages a Christian, with depression, has are endurance and hope. Reading "Job" may put things in perspective.

 

"Christians" who think depression has anything to do with a lack of faith or punishment, from God, "err, not knowing the scriptures".

2/21/11 5:57pm

CIG - That's the problem with a lot of Christian people. They forget the stories of Job and Jeremiah. They think that when you know Christ you're automatically going to be happy all the time - that you're always going to be emotionally well. The greatest damage is done by people like this when they tell their depressed friends that the problem is in their relationship with God. How terrible to be told that when you're doing your best to stay close to Him through a very rough time! They're essentially putting the blame on you. Christians need to love and accept, the way Christ showed us to. To be compassionate and try to understand. In my view, the stigma amongst a lot of Christians is more damaging than in any other portion of society. This is a viewpoint I'm passionate about and it is what drives me in my work. I'm an evangelical Christian myself and I would so much like to change the way mental illness is looked at by my fellow Christians!

Please do visit my blog with deals with such issues and others: http://marjabergen.blogspot.com

 

 

 

 

Anonymous
Anonymous
7/ 7/11 1:36pm

my wife has depression and is on medication for it. i try my best to understand but I know i can't fix her or fully understand because i have never been depressed myself. but what i struggle with is when she withdraws and holds me at arms length. instinctively i want to hold her and give nourishment to our intimate emotional connection. but i see her being happy with friends and others whilst with me she seems to direct her hostility. i love her dearly and it feels like she wants to end our relationship because she is so cold to me. it breaks my heart and i wish i could do something to reach her. i wish she could give just one gesture of affection to reassure me that, under all the darkness, she still loves me dearly. i feel so lost :((

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