I have been divorced for 4 years and I am in a VA MISA program the program is for Veteran who have Dual diagnostic disorders I have Major Clinical depression and I am in remission for Achochol Abuse I have been around recovery programs for 20 years and I have been sober & clean for the last 3 years, It not that I have not tried to meet other women in recovery that has not worked for me maybe they remoind me too much of my ex wife, So I am looking at other things like churches I was visting a local church here before I had a accident now I am trying to get my car fixed before christmas so9 I can vist my Parents in Atlanta, I dont have anyone here I can spend any time woith durring the holidays, So I dontrb want to spend the hpolidays alone here in Gainesville, Most all of the other guys are spending the holidays with thier family so I dont like to hear about that right now, I have been trying to meet someone on OK cupid a free dating site but I only get onliune chat or nates sent back and forth They are being really hard to meet I suggusted meeting in a local coffdee plavce like Star Bucks somewhere taht we both know where it is and if we feel uncomfortable I can leave but so far no progress the said maybe or I dont know???

I meamn I( am tring I want tpo check whats going on on the church singles email I get durring the week if I can My Case Manager will be gone all this week and I will npot be abl;e to get in touch or talk to her at all I dontb have anyone else aty all so I dont feel good about this week, I do have one erson I can call but all hse talks about is Myspace and I toild her I dont want tpo hear about it, I canceled my my space account because I git tired of trying to meet someone own thiere, Sop Now i am stuck at hime like I have been night afyter night weekenmd after weekend alone!! I hate it and I am ready to do almost anythoing to get out of it incliuceding going to a bar and I dont drink AND  I know there are other places to meet women but there are more at a bar and they know why IO am therew and they are there if they are therre alone to meet guys, just like I am there to meet women, not l;ike some other setting where yiu dont know whay they are there. Anyway I am ready to try but I am afraid of being in a bar night after night I dont want to start drinking again I have 3 years clean & sober I have not doen driugs in 25 years except fpor the meds I am on from the VA doctors here and that does not count at all.I have another problem I have been unable to have a orgasam when I am woith someone Itb has happend 2 times now after my divorce and I was so embarssed that I didnt want to ask anyone out for fear of it happening again like  what would I do, I am afraid it woulkd happen againI wish I had known about other ways to meet someone??? I do fear sexual failuare with someone else!!

Frank Duffey

Frank Duffey