I use to love my job...now I hate it. Work with a great organzation but feel less than valued. Have been a manager for some 5 plus years. Got a new boss and she is micro managing everything and everyone. It is hard for me to just walk away from some place that has given me so much. She seems to love pushing me in a corner and watching me fight my way out. The funny thing about this problem is that everyone that I work with see's it except her. I have tried to stand my ground to having her belittle me in front of my co-workers. When I pointed it out she told me that I need to be quiet she wanted to from one of my employees that I managed. This person now think they do not have to take direction or every acknowledge my position. She has managed to create this amazing power struggle in a department that use to run smooth. To a back biting, no team work and a lot or tension going on. It really works on me and my depression to the point of suicide. I hate giving her that power but do not know what to do. I stopped taking my meds because I feel bad taking them and I feel bad not taking them. This has been a long battle with these feeling since childhood. Feeling that I am never good enough and that I have been a bad little girl. I sit at home and cry for hours at night. I need the job because of the money. I just want her to respect me and my coworkers. Our assistant boss left and she got me. She was my rock and I have no one to stand behind me. Do not know what way to turn....
Hi there
This sounds like a horrible position to be in with this type of boss. They even make movies of this topic...there is one coming out this weekend about bad bosses. I am so sorry this is happening to you. It does concern me that you are mentioning suicide in association with this.
Is this person reachable as a human being? Can you say that the stress of this is harming you? Do you have a human resource department? Is there anyone to go to...to discuss this problem with your boss? If others are seeing this...and agree with you....are you all willing to work as a team to try to do something about this situation? Sometimes there is strength in numbers.
Is there any possibility that you could look for a new job? You would not have to leave until you found something...but it might give you the confidence and leverage that you need to not feel so trapped.
I know this sounds lame but...in such situations you really have to minimize the power of this person or your work to get to you. Your life is not totally work. You need to maximize the other elements in your life until you can figure out a solution to your work problem.
Also...if the meds helped...stick with them. Do you have a therapist to talk to about this? Your job is not worth your health or mental health? What price do you give for freedom? The choices are...you either strategize how to deal with this sort of boss.....emotionally disconnect with this boss and her issues....or look for a new job where you may be happier.
Tell us more...I am sure so many of our members can relate. Don't let this one person make you so miserable. This isn't worth your mental health. There is more to life than this boss or this job.
Take care of you. Keep writing. We are listening.