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attacked outside of dr. office sexually abused

By starshine Saturday, May 22, 2010

it has taken me a while to write this, i was attacked by a seriously mentally ill woman as i awaited my ride home. i remembered her from my old neighbourhood, i havent seen her in 15 years, i would bump into her at food co op we would discuss vegtables , she was diffrent then but we had no friendship to speak of, she looked diffrent i didnt reconize here we were sitting in the waiting room, she was feeling sad she took my hand and just was so sad and crying lightly. then my therapist came out, i had a great session, then i went down stairs, this woman had waited for me and began to talk about life, then she got up straddled my legs and began to kiss me and bite my neck , she told me that i was hers , she wanted me, she reached into my blouse and squeezed my chest i was frozen, my ride came i got up and ran to the cab and got in i told the cab driver she was sick and attacked me. i got home made a police report over the phone, this person doesnt know where i live, but left me a message saying thather therapist told her that because she is so rejected to be more forward and take a person without asking she told me i was hers and she is going to have me, all i know is that she left that tape on my voicemail and one of the therapist listened i forwared it to her voicemail all the therapist heard it , had her in for a appointment, i will know what happened on monday, i am afraid to go back , i have been raped before, brutally, and i have been having night terrors,panic attacks, i am feeling so scared as this woman lives in a controled setting for people with mental illness and the homeless, this area is in town and downtown, i live far away from her but if i take out a anti harrassment order they will put my address on it i f she were to harass me she can be picked up, she has a long record for criminal acts such as what she did to me, i am so afraid, i was laughed at by my neighbour she said "you  draw strange people to yourself" "Oh just kick her butt" i have stayed in my apartment since except to go to my endocrinologist, he cares about me and was feeling bad about what happened, i have no one to talk about it, except my therapist. I am reliving what happened to me in 1979 beated beyound reconition, by a police officer, threated that if i did let him take my virginity he would pull the trigger, i lost 10 fet of intestine, had a hysterectomy 4 months later, and got hepetitis c, I am trying to tell everyone here i dont want to  trigger anyone who has suffered, plese write back .

took my power back.....................
Merely Me, Health Guide
5/22/10 10:12am

Did this just happen on Friday?

 

That is simply frightening!  How did she get your telephone number?  I would definitely change it. 

 

I think you have done all the right things...you filed a report...you told your therapist...now the key is to be able to have this person stay away from you permanently.

 

I am sure this triggered all sorts of bad memories for you.  You will need your therapist's help to overcome this.

 

Let us know what happens.  My thoughts are with you.

5/23/10 12:33am

thank you so much for responding, i am just trying to rest and take care of my body the chronic pain is at an all time high, my arms are very weak, and i have a fever, this incident has not only triggered old thoughts, my body has been traumatized, so its hard to juggle everything, i have an appointment with my therapist. i just feel so sad, not depresed, just sad.

                                                      thanks, starshine

5/22/10 6:13pm

I join my voice to Merely Me

If I could I would lend you my shoulder if only for a instant, is there anybody you know who could be there with you on monday

if this women lives in a control environment rest ashured that they have been told what happen or so I hope.

 

-Michel-

5/23/10 12:42am

hi michel

 

thanks for showing support, and the person who did this may come and go as she pleases, i live in washington state, it is one of the most liberal states about this sort of thing. many women who have been hurt cant get far enough away until she were to try again she can go and come as she pleases. so many women are raped beaten and dont have much help here thankfully i have a therapist, i am terrified to go back there to see her though becasue i have no one that can go with me, and no one who wants to be involved. i am so very physically drained emotionally drained i have to just lay down alot. thanks, starshine

5/22/10 7:21pm

Starshine, I almost couldn't believe what you were tellilng us - that would give me nightmares, too!  And I'm so sorry for what happened to you before; did the officer ever get charged with attacking you?  It must have been horrific to have needed all that surgery.

 

You did the right thing by reporting it - I think your therapist or someone there should make sure that woman is never scheduled to be there when you are.  I wonder why she was there by herself without some kind of chaperone if she's living in a restricted setting for the mentally ill.

 

I hope you'll write again after Monday and let us know what happens.  Take good care of yourself!

5/23/10 12:46am

hi, thanks for writing, the laws here are very loose on that sort of thing, she can go where she likes , i live in washington state, and it is hard enough to get help even harder to be protected, i must go now , i am very drained , thank you for your support

 

 

                                 starshine

5/23/10 1:10am

Hi Starshine,

 

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I'm not really sure what to say but I wanted you to know that I think you're really brave and strong, that you did all the right things, and I'm glad you shared with us - I'm thinking of you and I really hope things work out well.

 

It must have been really hard to work up the courage to write about the incident but I'm glad you did. How are you feeling now? Did you return to see your therapist? I think it's a good idea, but I understand why you'd be scared to seeing as that woman might be around. I wish somehow I could stand up and defend you - I think that's the hardest part about this being a website and us being all over the world: if I were there I'd come with you to the therapists so you didn't have to go alone and worry about being caught out again... do you have anyone in your life who might come with you? A friend? Family member? Someone who can make you feel at least a bit safer and can simply read a book or something outside as they wait for your session to finish?

5/24/10 12:57am

thank you for responding, i am trying to find someone to go with me but i must if not i must return, i wont let that person take away my power, i have a right to see my therapist, especially i must return, so much has come up for me now, i am finding the strength to get out of bed, watch a bit of telly, feed myself, take a bath, but i can only do so in the bath i can stand to see myself, i still am feeling tainted and modest even from my own eyes. i have an appointment, i am afraid but i must not let her take away my right to travel freely aferall she is the one with the sexual abuse record of doing this. thanks for your support, i need it and am greatful for having a place to go where people care. much peace, starshine

5/24/10 2:18am

Hi Starshine,

I am so happy to hear you say this: 'i must return, i wont let that person take away my power, i have a right to see my therapist'. I love seeing that strength and determination - that is exactly why you are going to get through this Smile Let us know how your next therapy session goes and whatever else happens with that silly woman.

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By starshine— Last Modified: 12/19/10, First Published: 05/22/10