I was wondering if anyone has ever tried to find a doctor that they actually feel comfortable with? Have you had to search and go through a tone of them?
Unfortunately for me, because of Workers Compensation, her in California, I have to choose a doctor that is from their list. My first doctor was very nice older gentleman. He took his time and listened to me most of the time. My problem with him is that I was having neck and shoulder issues and he was a family practice doc. My shoulder ended up freezing up because he did not send me to someone that specializes with this. He also would prescribes meds a bit to freely for my comfort.
The next two or three rushed me in and out so fast I was more confused than when I first went in. As a matter of fact, a majority of what I have learned about the issues and meds have been from my own research and not anything they discussed with me, including an up coming surgery.
Here is the doozy of all. I went to see a new doc that decided I was not being treated properly and he would be taking over my case. But before he said that he said the “F” word. Now that was a first.
Today I went back and I think I may have found out about his whole life, including him being divorced and his wife cleaning him out, along with past surgeries and depression that he faced. He mentioned that he has been through most likely every depression med he can think of. What topped it off is that he excused himself to use the restroom, came back in and sat down. We were talking about age and he said that he can't even pee right anymore???? HIS PANTS HAD A WET STAIN IN THE FRONT.
Now I don't know what to think about this one. I told him that the pain meds he prescribed me were just not going to work. He said that he thought after I left that he may have giving me a high dose.
Where do these people come from? I am relieved that in one way, he is human and faces everyday challenges that we do, but the other part felt that he was a really odd man.
I have had a lot of strangers feel comfortable with telling me some of their issues in the past. They have mentioned that they don't know why they just told me everything that they did. So someone telling me their feelings out of the blue is not surprising, or new.....but my doctor?
Don't know what to think about this one. Any comments?
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Hi, Moonflowers. That latest doctor does sound a bit unprofessional. I mean, it's one thing to have a doctor reveal personal things about him/herself over a period of time of seeing them, but to go into such detail on a first visit, makes you wonder who needs a doctor worse, you or him? Do you know anyone who has gone to doctors they've liked that might be in your "network?" I've found people I know in the field or who have had to be treated for similar things to be the best reference, although not fool-proof. My therapist once recommended a psychiatrist that she thought was so great, as she had experience working with her in a hospital setting. In the office, though, she was useless as far as I was concerned. I doubt if she spent more than 10 minutes with me per visit.
I hope you can find someone better than what you've had so far. I know it's so frustrating to have to keep searching, but it's so important to be able to trust your doctor.