My First Sharepost

Welcome to the site. You did not say if you were taking medication. If you aren't really think about it.  I tried 4 medications...the first ones didn't work and I didn't expect the fourth one too. It made all the difference I have lived without depression now for 15 years. Its wonderful.  Yes all mums get tired I don't think Men really understand. But this is not the same as depression. I hope you have a good doctor. Take very good care. Rusty

Somniate,

 

Seems like you have lots of changes taking place.  That alone would freak me out.  There's a saying when you find out about one significant change in your life, don't try to change everything else at the same time.  Go with first things first.  Finding yourself and your needs is key.  You can still find yourself and not add the burden of visitation, separation, housing issues, kids stuff and all the other changes that come with a separation and potential marriage change.   Based on my own circumstance I can tell you that I stayed separated a long time and worked solely on myself.  Yes, I did love my husband and I did not want a divorce initially.  What I wanted was to be seen and heard -- for someone to know and recognize the beautiful person I am inside to outside.  Turned out my ex was not capable of validating that and I chose to divorce.

 

I have been on my own now for 10 exhausting years and I truly wish many days that Prince Charming would come along and sweep me off my feet.  But alas, the best I can do is "Calgon take me away."  

 

The morale of the story.  Prioritize, take your time and love the gifts that are blessing you today; for it may be all you have.   Medication has allowed me to make some positive changes by buying me well-needed time to just be me.  Perhaps you will find similar freedom through your couseling and/or physician's input.  By doing what's best for you, you may find the trickle down effects of benefit for your children and husband.  God bless you in this tenuous journey of change.

 

EONE 

Get professional help from a therapist and involve your husband in the process

If you truly love your husband and he loves you the same,  private communication that's only between you for support of each other will help.