I need to know if there is somthing wrong with me. I am 24 and about a year ago, I became pregnant from my boyfriend of two years. He decided he did not want to be part of the babys life and left us both. I decided to continue with my pregnancy and 6 months into it I had to terminate my pregnancy because of serious complications. It was a very traumatic experience being how I felt so alone and I was so excited about having my child and it did not happen. I have now moved on, I have a new boyfriend and I want to change my life around. I find it very difficult to talk about babies, baby showers, friends that are pregnant. I feel like people around me do not understand me, and feel I am just being dramatic. I have been thinking about getting getting pregnant again, maybe that would make me get over the situation. I do not know if I am wrong, if I am dragging this too long, I just dont know what to do. Can someone please help me understand??
thank you!
Helena, I am so sorry for the loss of your baby, it must have been heartbreaking. I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you are still in the stages of grieving - you lost your boyfriend and your baby. You might even have post-partum depression. If you feel like your grief is too overwhelming, you should maybe find a therapist to talk to, or maybe you could find a grief support group - sometimes hospitals and mental health clinics have them.
One thing I would be cautious about is having another baby to make yourself feel better. It might, but the baby needs a healthy mother. Babies are very demanding, sweet as they are, and if you're already depressed, that doesn't make it any easier.
I wish you all the best and hope you will soon feel better. You'll never forget your child, but the pain will ease. You can write here any time. God bless you.