I LOVE the idea behind theses comments!

Me? I do the things I do because "It's the right thing to do"...period.

Also, "Pay it forward" works wonders!

Carl

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/ 1/10 1:47pm

Hey Carl!

 

I know this is a silly question but...what does "pay it forward" mean?  I have not heard of this saying.

 

 

jpw2008

7/ 1/10 2:38pm

Hi M/M

Its a title of a movie"pay it forward"

Jon

Judy

7/ 1/10 7:39pm

Hi, Merely Me.  "Pay it Forward" means that when something nice or good is done for you or given to you by someone, you should turn around and do the same for someone else when you can.  That's how I feel about all the help I've gotten over the years - now I can start paying it forward.

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/ 1/10 7:41pm

Miss Judy!

 

Are you back from your vacation?  I was just thinking about you. 

 

We miss you.

 

I will have to see this movie...I honestly had never heard that expression before.

CJinLV

7/ 1/10 9:24pm

Cheers to Jon & Judy!!! 

 

Yes, it's a movie (a GOOD movie!) & a 'twist' on the saying "pay it back".

 

'Paying it forward' is indeed the act of returning a kindness received to another person. Imagine each of us doing this?!

 

Carl

3-dimensions. 1. Pre-D  2. The big D.  3.Post-D. 1.Years ago, when I would feel the D. coming on I would head to the library & read every thing available on depression. 2.When having a major episode,  I was in the hospital trying new meds or ECT.s. 3. After my last episode I accepted the Socractic challenge-"Know thy self." I spent the last 5 years researching & documenting my history to tell my story- Who am I? It is due to be published this month by Authorhouse. Check their website to see the progress. Regards; Jim Blaha

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/ 1/10 1:52pm

"Know thyself"....I like it!

 

I think as much as we think we know ourselves there is always something new to learn. 

 

Good to see you...hope you are doing well.

Hi, MM.  I'm back from a nice, relaxing vacation but I feel I'm so out of the loop now!  It'll take me a week to get caught up.

One thing I guess I tell myself is that I'm not alone, I have a support network if I will allow myself to call them; I don't ever have to sink to the bottom of the black hole again before getting help.

I also believe I will survive whatever negative things happen - they are part of life, not the end of the world.  I only have so much control and the rest I need to turn over.  Aging helps!

I often find myself mentally saying "I'm better than this" as a way to keep myself fighting and not let the day and depression get me down... not sure it's a positive mantra though, maybe just beating myself up and being my own disciplinarian...

But then some of the mantras can get me down. Even your one Merely Me of "This too shall pass"... I end up thinking, "yeah, then what? I feel good for how long and then that too shall pass and I'll just end up here, feeling awful, again".

I also feel that about the doing good thing... makes me want to leave life when I know that all my hard work can just come back and bite me on the arse in this cruel world... makes me wonder what is the point...

I'm sorry... I'm being really negative and unhelpful right now aren't I? I really shouldn't post this... but I know I will... still, sorry.

sioux

7/ 2/10 11:10am

"Dear Lyra, I know it's easy to get into the frame of mind that you're in right now and yes you're right when all is going well "that too shall pass" but that is why when we are in agood space we have to do as Merely Me says , be in the moment and savor every good feeling you're having at that moment. This is what helps us to get through the bad times. And as far as doing good , there is a natural law of reciprocity that says for every good thing you do eventually it will come back to you in a similarly good way, it may not be immediate but it Will come back to you. I really enjoy your posts and you have been helpful to me in the past, so I hope you're doing well and wish you the best. Sioux.

Merely Me, Health Guide

7/ 2/10 5:18pm

Lyra...

 

No need to ever be sorry.  You just keep being exactly who you are.  Whatever you are feeling right now...this is important.  It is true.  You will be here again.  The depression can pass.  But you can absolutely feel it again.  I have traversed many depressions in my life thus far.  It can seem dismal.  But...it can also seem like...yeah...I am damn grateful that I have survved so much.  Ya know? 

 

Life feels so much more worth living when you have felt the pits of despair. 

 

At least from my perspective.

 

You can do this.  I am glad you are here with us and whatever you wish to share...we want to hear it.  Don't hold back.

LyraStorm

7/ 3/10 2:09am

Hi Souix,

Thanks for the well wishing... I'm doing ok... just being a bit negative

LyraStorm

7/ 3/10 2:11am

Hi Merely Me,

Thank you for your positive encouragement - your reply made me smile, if only for a moment, so thank you very much. I often worry about what I do and say when I feel like this, thank you for saying it was ok.