Well I guess that is technically not exactly true. I have received 2 valentine cards in my life. One was from a friend after I helped him and another friend not only hook up but buy each other valentine's presents so it was a thank you... And the second was an e-valentine card from another male friend who knew I liked him but didn't like me back and he felt sorry for me.
Whilst both are sweet in their own ways they are hardly real valentine's, are they? I've never had a relationship and any dating has not occured over this period of time - in fact I'm pretty sure guys try to avoid it as much as possible when it comes to just starting to date a girl.
Anyway it used to bum me out that I didn't know what it felt like to be loved and get a valentine etc but hell, most people I know who are in a relationship think its a bunch of crock anyway (why do you need a specific day to show someone you care?). I don't think too much of it - I would like someone in my life, but even if I was in a relationship I wouldn't put too much stock in this particular day of the year me thinks...
Having said that my older brother is in a relationship and is having his first valentine and he is over the moon about it and has got his girlfriend a matching gold necklace and earring set and is taking her out so I don't poo poo those who enjoy it. I'm happy for them both. Have a happy valentine's day to those who are going to celebrate, and if not just have a good day anyway it is not that big of a deal.
Thanks Lyra
This is your younger brother? That must be something to see.
Yeah I think that most holidays have been so commercialized that it takes away from the meaning of it. The jewelery company advertisements are the worst...poor guys everywhere think that a diamond is the only way to a woman's heart. And of course one has to buy the perfect card. I think there is a lot of pressure there.
I do believe you will find your valentine someday. He is out there...waiting for just the right time to meet you. Or so they say in the movies. lol
Thanks for your comment Lyra...hope you have a great day.
If I were to be honest I would have to say I wish Valentines Day was a romantic night shared with my wife snuggling in front of the fireplace watching some classic movie such as Doc Hollywood, or even Die Hard II, its sort of romantic. Its like I wish I could feel so comfortable with her now, after married for 17 years, as I did when we were first dating, and I couldn't control myself with her. I'll make fun of those around me with their loved one only wishing that could be me. It can be but at the moment at times I just feel so exhausted that if I were 23 again I'd do it differently, but I don't know, would I?
I do think thought that Valentines Day can be cool, just don't get why roses have to cost $50. The Bon Jovi song "Silent Night," a great romantic not so positive song, is my Valentine favorite.
Hi Rick
Oh yes...the roses...so expensive! and they die so quickly. I will tell ya...I would rather have dyed daisies from the grocery store than a bunch of roses.
I need to see these movies...Die Hard II is romantic? I had no idea. I go for the romantic comedies myself. Groundhog Day is a good one. Hitch is also hilarious.
Hey...it is okay not to be 23 anymore. All that angst...the twenties are a hard time. Relish in the now. Before you know it you will be wistful about this period of time in your life.
Thanks so much for your comment and I hope you have a delightful day.
Valentines Day is a big deal for my daughters, and I really like to see them go all out in exchanging cards and candy at school, but it has never been that special for my wife and I. I think it is kind of a contrived holiday. I'm not an expert on romance, but I think that showing your love to someone should be spontaneous and not based on a date on a calendar. We celebrate our anniversary as a way to commemorate a special day, but we like to surprise each other with flowers, cards, and chocolates at random times when the mood strikes.
Valentine's Day is not a really big deal to me, although we always go out to dinner for it, but we're not so big on gifts any more. I think it's fun to send valentines to other people - I still send them to my sons and now, of course, my grandson gets a special one. He's growing up so fast, I'll bet next year he'll be able to read it himself. I'm feeling a little sad for my son because he and his wife are separated and he does tend to be a little sentimental about these things. Doesn't it always seem to be more the case when things aren't going well? All of the special holidays seem so much more loaded when we have pain in our relationships and they aren't the ideal that we always thought we'd have.
I used to think it was fun when I was in school and we'd have a valentine box on our desks so that people could drop one in if they wanted to - some would be anonymous so you'd wonder and wonder who gave it to you.
Anyway, hope everyone who likes to celebrate it does so with much enjoyment.
Hi Judy
I imagine this will be an especially difficult holiday for your son. I hope somehow he adjusts to all this. Not sure how people do.
I loved Valentine's Day in school too...all the little cards. Like the one on the Simpsons...with the picture of the train saying...Choo-choo-choose me! lol
I kinda wish I had saved some of those grade school cards. They were so much fun.
Here's hoping that you have a lovely Valentine's Day. You deserve it.
Well, i'm very depressed having a relapse right now .Going to see my therpist today . But, it is a nice holiday we don't go all out my husband always gets me candy & a card & i get him a small gift & a card like he needed a wallet so that's what i got Giants of course his team .My bd is in Feb. so we go out for dinner & a movie for my bd . This yr. is my 65th bd . I'm more of a hearts & flowers type person than my husband He's really not that into Valentine's day .
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Valentine's Day has never meant much to me, but then I was never blessed with particularly romantic relationships. Even though I was married for 13 yrs I can't remember but one Valentine's Day and that was because we had to stand in line at a restaurant for 45 minutes. Today, though, I did go out and buy 12 Valentine's Day cards for friends and relatives, hoping to add a bright spot to their day.
Oh that is really nice Donna...I am sure the cards will brighten their day. I tend to like to cook or bake for Valentine's Day. The one fond memory I have with my mother when I was a little girl was her helping me to bake Valentine's cookies for my class at school. I can still remember the smell and taste of those cookies. And I have to this day...the same rolling pin. So this is one of my Valentine's Day traditions...to bake heart shaped cookies.
You are a very kind person...always thinking of how to make someone's day happier. I do hope that you have people who do the same for you.
Thanks Donna for your comment! Always good to see you.
Another good thought: the Valentine's Day after I got divorced, I was living with my parents. My father, who was normally kind of cold and distant, went out and bought me a pair of satin pajamas and a 24"x36" V-Day card. He said I no longer had someone to treat me special on Valentine's, so he wanted to do so. That was the sweetest thing he ever did for me, and the most appreciated.
Wow...that was so thoughtful.
I am sure that is a memory you will always cherish. And such a good message. Yes you are special regardless if you are in a relationship or not.
Do you still have the pajamas?