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By Merely Me, Health Guide Friday, April 15, 2011
Hi everyone   It is Friday and this is a good time to talk about your week.  Good or bad we want to hear how things are going for you.   1.  How would you rate your week on a scale of 1-10?   2.  What were the highlights or good points about this week?  Doesn'...
Mental Illness in the Family Tree
4/15/11 8:14pm

Hi, Merely Me.  Hope YOU'VE had a good week!  Mine has been a mixed bag.  I started babysitting my grandson every Monday to help out with his new daycare costs - so far so good.  He's a real sweetie and doesn't give me any trouble, plus my husband is off on Mondays and he absolutely LOVES his grandpa, so that helps a lot.  I think it's helped him get more comfortable with us.  He's suffering a little from losing his old friends at his previous daycare; he's had so many changes in his life lately, I'm sure he doesn't know what's going on but can't verbalize his feelings all that well.  I've told him that the new kids in daycare will become his friends, too.  And then I've been busier than heck getting ready for our big concert in two weeks - the dancing is a killer (for me) and we have practice on Saturdays for that, in addition to regular practice during the week.  The week of the show, we have 3-hour practices every night.

 

My parents are returning for the summer in two weeks, also, and I'm not looking forward to it.  Right now, I'm late in giving my mother a call so I'm dreading talking to her because, even though I don't bite, she tries to guilt me for it.  It's just such a waste of energy.

 

We have a lot of expenses coming up between taxes and needing some things done around the house.  Today, we took our younger dog in to see a specialist because he has defective knees, basically, and we were told that surgery could make it worse or it may not work and that it would cost about $3,000 per knee.  Well, the good news is that he's not in pain, the condition shouldn't get any worse, so we may not have to do anything except try physical therapy.  I think we'll opt for the conservative route for now!  I would be more aggressive if it were causing him pain, though - I don't want to see him suffer.

 

Well, enough about my week, it's not exactly scintillating reading for anyone else!  Hope everyone has a good week-end.

4/15/11 10:44pm

1.  How would you rate your week on a scale of 1-10? I've been all over the place so we'll just say 5 - the middle there seems about average.

2.  What were the highlights or good points about this week? I got asked out on a date (I won't see him again but it's nice to be asked). I also decided that this year I will acknowledge my birthday with a gathering of people - as soon as I put up the event on facebook one guy immediately clicked on the not coming... at first I was hurt but then last night he came on msn and we chatted for ages and he apologised for not being able to come (without me bringing the topic up - so no prompting on my end), saying he'd love to if he could, so that made me feel a lot better (and a bit silly). 

I also watched a play a friend of mine directed and it was awesome - and I sent him a message over facebook saying as much and we talked for a bit and he found out that I didn't get into the second year of that acting course I was doing last year and was flabbergasted and he called the head teacher a morone and said he saw my performance at the end of the year and I was one of the stand outs, so clearly that made my night.

And, finally, I auditioned for a student film. I don't know if I got the part but I felt confident, and didn't mess up the lines at all, and the guy auditioning me seemed to like me, so even if I don't get the part I know I did well and quite frankly I enjoyed myself.

3.  What was particularly challenging for you this week?  How did you cope? The guy I went on a date with was supposed to take me out Friday night... then he was saying he didn't want to wait that long and he had Wednesday off work, so we made plans to go to the theatre that night. Then during Wednesday daytime he phoned and said he was too tired to stay up so late that night seeing as he had work Thursday (and he'd been out with friends Tues night, and up early for golf that morning) so he couldn't come to the theatre with me. At first I was hurt and then he said he still wanted to see me for a bit before I go to the theatre... he drove around to my place, picked me up, we hung out for a bit, then he was going to take me to a station but instead invited me to his house to watch a dvd. Long story short (yes, I know I've already harped on too much) we messed about a bit and after he just backed right off and said he felt guilty and doesn't normally do that on a first date... and to be fair he kept saying stuff like 'we don't really know each other' and backing off a bit when we were playing, but then he'd continue anyway... he then said he will still be my friend, but not my boyfriend.

The event itself didn't affect me like I thought it would. I didn't feel guilty for making him feel guilty, which is a merry-go-round I normally ride. I didn't really even care that my playing with him might have influenced his decision not to date me anymore (friday dinner date off the cards - though he did text this morning to say hi and ask how I am). Something inside of me shifted gears though. It was like I gave up on anything meaningful with anyone, like fun is all I can expect, and for some reason I don't care.

I do feel very tired though. Tired and a bit detached from life. I'm not sure if it was just this event, probably not, but something in me has shifted.

4/15/11 11:44pm

For me it was another intense week of therapy. I'm giving it a 10. Codependency group was a wild time as one participant verbalized she didn't like another person. It was a very emotional night for most people there. It was a yawner for me.

Found out on Thursday my wife doesn't have breast cancer, that was a relief.

Thursday, last night my therapy was very intense, as was today. At least I'm not a candiate for SRS surgery at this time. I hate the term, not at this time. I don't think ever, though at times I don't know who I feel I am. That's a little disturbing. My therapist gave me a batch of journaling and questions to answer for next weeks therapy. At least I have the transgender group on Monday, that's good. Really have to work on my mascara this weekend. I wish I was kidding. My therapist and therapy in general has really began to go down a different track. She'll often tell me when I'm searching for the correct words to verbalize, "just say it, I know you know what you want to convey." It's difficult trying to make someone feel how you're feeling. Is that even possible?

 

Be well everyone..........

4/16/11 7:30am

On the whole, my week was about an 8.  But I did so much that I got myself too tired by Friday.  My mom's style show went well, which was great since it is her last one.  Tuesday, I took her to the doc for a steroid shot in her bum shoulder and then out to eat.  Wednesday was busy, Thursday was very busy.  By Thursday night I was completely worn out and useless.  But I still managed to get some things done yesterday after resting all morning.  And I got to watch some videos on my computer during the afternoon, which was fun.  I hadh to get rid of my cat on Wednesday because I was allergic to it.  Too bad -- I wanted a low-maintenance pet to cuddle with.

 

One of the best moments was when I told my painting partner "no" when she asked me to go to some yard sales with her.  It has always been difficult to say no.  Instead of going out with her after painting, I went directly home and slept for an hour.  She encouraged me to start keeping fresh flowers in my apartment, and I may try that once a week for a visual and mental boost.  I used to work as a florist, so I really enjoy the process of floral design.

 

The down side, I ate too much Thursday evening because I got so tired.  I tend to do that.  Then my stomach hurt all day yesterday and is still hurting this morning.  That tells you something about just how much I ate!  I have gained several pounds over the last 6 weeks, what with living with Mom for 3 weeks after she broke her back.  I'm going to try to step up the exercise for a while and see if I can't get the weight back off before it gets any worse.

4/17/11 4:31pm

Hi MM and all,

 

I hope you week went well. Way to go Rick44.

My week as usual went quite well. The only hard times were when I stayed up too late taking me into the next day deflated a bit. Everything is harder when you are tired. The brightest spots were sticking to my regemin of exercise on a few sore days- feeling much better for the effort. Learning to turn on my digital tape recorder during history lessons, so I can re-listen later. Being thankful for living in the most blessed country in the world.

 

Ric

4/17/11 5:56pm

 1.  How would you rate your week on a scale of 1-10?  My week was a 6.  I pretty much was just getting through it and just maintaining.

 2.  What were the highlights or good points about this week?  I have been going to group therapy once a week.  I am now beginning to really look forward to and enjoy it.  I enjoy the other participants.  I am beginning relax a bit in the group.

 3.  What was particularly challenging for you this week?  I had to go to my hand surgeon.  I had carpal tunnel release surgery on both hands 6 weeks ago.  I am now released to return to work.  I feel much better.  As far as coping...I aways have trouble coping when I don't feel well.  But, after 6 long weeks, I can say that I am coping much better now.  Not 100% yet, but better.

     Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend and have a great week ahead.  :-)

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By Merely Me, Health Guide— Last Modified: 01/10/12, First Published: 04/15/11