This was a hard one! Two days I can think of that I would have changed if I could re-live them were the days each of my sons were born. I had C-sections with both of them and had general anesthesia (and I know I would have been scared out of my mind if I'd had to be awake, but....), and I now wish I had been awake. My first son I didn't see until he was 12 hours old and then he was taken away for three days to a children's hospital because he had a collapsed lung. My second son I didn't see until he was a couple of days old because he had fluid on his lungs (and suffered some brain damage, we found out later), but it was a very weird thing to not hold them right away and I think with my second son, especially, it made bonding a little more difficult.
By the way, I liked Groundhog Day. I know this sounds sick, but I laughed my head off when he tried to kill himself to end it all and STILL woke again to the same day - he couldn't even do THAT right. I guess the point of it was to show how many times people will continue to do the same thing, even when it isn't working, before they finally figure out that they need to try something else.
Yeah that was a part of the movie that was dark but humorous. It really is a good movie...I should watch it again.
I hadn't known that your pregnancies were so traumatic. A sort of similar thing happened to me with my first born. I was bleeding too much so they had to whisk me away to be repaired and my husband was left for hours and hours holding our baby...no nurses even came to help him as they were all concentrated on me...I was hemmorhaging and almost in need of a blood transfusion (I blame my doctor...she was horrible) but I didn't get to bond with my son for some time. But boy did my eldest bond with my husband. For my second son who has autism...I still had bleeding problems but did get to bond with him right away and it was magical.
Awww...now you got me thinking about babies. My boys are taller than me now. They were such cute babies but big! One was over nine pounds and I am a small girl. I remember the nurse saying...that boy owes you on Mother's Day as his big old head tore me apart.
Thanks for sharing Judy. I will have to add a story of my own to this post.
Only knowing what I know now would I go back and do over any days. I think there are too many of them to write about.
Just for fun I might want to go back and spend a day as a 10-year-old having fun with my childhood best friend and/or spending the night with her when we were teens and went out "cruising" in her Ford Falcon and then stay awake late talking about our crushes on guys.
I was just getting reconnected with her by email and then did not hear from her for a long time. I found out from my cousin that she died this past July of cancer.
patsy
I am so sorry Patsy.
You make me want to reconnect with my childhood friend who I have not talked to in a long time.
Those days were fun weren't they? I had a friend...we would have sleepovers and listen to ghost stories on the radio before falling asleep. It gives you a good feeling to think about these memories.
Thanks so much for sharing.
I'd like to relive the day my grandfather and I were in the woods talking about God. I was 17, in full blown psychosis, so I didn't get what he was trying to say. I never forgot his words. I can still see his face, the trees, the sunshine, I can hear the sounds of the leaves blowing in the wind, and the smells of the forest wafting in the air. It wasn't until last year that I fully understood what he was trying to get me to understand. My grandfather was the only adult in that small village that actually took the time and tried to help me. He was very wise and kind to me.
You wrote this so well...I can feel myself being there.
I am glad you had this grandfather to help you. We all need someone in our lives who truly looks after us.
What meaning do you now attribute to his words? If this is too personal...I understand.
Thanks so much for stopping by and joining our discussion. Hope you are having a good weekend.
He asked me if I prayed for him. I didn't, I told him. He then said "Then how does God know what you want to tell me when I am miles away"? He also took a leaf from a tree and asked me "Can you make this"? I said no. He then asked if any man could make a leaf..I said no. He said that the whole world was made by God for us. I realized last year that praying for others is a way to communicate with God our desires and concerns for them. It isn't all about me..its about others.
David
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Mom has been sick for many years with a rare disease. It affected her personality in such a profound way that it was like she was someone we did not know. Nowadays her cognitive abilities are severely damaged, and it has been years since she has spoken. I am not sure if she knows who I am.
Mom gave me a wonderful life. She and I were extremely close. I would give almost anything for just one more day with her, as she was, whole and complete. I would like to go back to one really fine day in my childhood and possibly stay there forever. Unlike Bill Murray, I don't think I'd try to leave. Instead, every day I would make the day even more perfect than it was the day before.
OK, here comes the flood of tears. I will end my post now.
Oh my goodness...you are going to have me in tears too.
I am so sorry that this happened to your mom. It must be heartbreaking. I can tell that you love her very much. I like to think that this is the part of the relationship that keeps going on no matter what...the love and care in your heart.
Thank you for stopping by...I am deeply touched.
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