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Sad Songs Say So Much

By Merely Me Sunday, September 07, 2008

When I am feeling depressed the one thing I can usually count on to keep me going has always been music.  Music is perfect for those lonely sad times.  We hear the words and melody of a perfect sad song and we feel that we are not alone.  Musicians must be a moody lot because so many songs reflect a state of sadness.  And of course a whole genre is devoted to singing the blues.  Hearing the words and even singing along is nothing short of cathartic. 

 

About the only good thing resulting from my depressed times is that this is when I usually discover new music.  This is when I need music the most.  During one of my most recent episodes I found the music of Ingrid Michaelson.  As I heard her words I could relate to so much.  Life is going on all around us but I don't see it.  My desire to make a difference fades to nothingness because I do not have the energy to do anything but sleep.  Can you see yourself in her song, Keep Breathing?  The first time I heard it, I sobbed through the lyrics.  Michaelson reminds us despite it all to keep breathing.  It is all any of us can do.

 

"The storm is coming but I don't mind
People are dying, I close my blinds

All that I know is I'm breathing now

I want to change the world...instead I sleep
I want to believe in more than you and me

But all that I know is I'm breathing
All I can do is keep breathing "

 

How about the loss of romantic love?  Music more than adequately covers this depressive theme.  Who can forget Billie Holiday's Stormy Weather lyrics:

 

"Dont know why there's no sun up in the sky
Stormy weather
Since my man and I aint together,
Keeps rainin all the time"

 

Here a blue mood is personified by stormy weather.  Rain is like the tears that fall when we feel we have lost love. 

 

Have you ever felt down and out with no money and no friends?  Bessie Smith would understand with her blues song, Nobody Knows When You are Down and Out:

 

"Mmmmmmmm.... when you're down and out
Mmmmmmmm... not one penny
And my friends I haven't any
Mmmmmmmm... Well I felt so low
Nobody wants me round their door
Mmmmmmmm... Without a doubt,
No man can use you when you down and out
I mean when you down and out"

 

There is a reason why I love Nine Inch Nails.  The lyrics of their songs are emotionally raw and guttural.  All the nuances of depression are covered from rage to apathy to self loathing.  The quintessential song which will rip your soul from its hinges has to be Hurt.  Trent Reznor wrote it to describe his addiction to heroin but the words go deeper than his personal experience. The lyrics will touch anyone who is dealing with emotional numbness and despair.  We feel every word he sings like a needle going through our body.

 

"I hurt myself today
To see if I still feel
I focus on the pain
The only thing that's real"

 

There is a version by the late Johnny Cash who sang Hurt as only he could.  It is a slower, more mournful rendition.  It seems even all the more poignant now that he is gone.

Anonymous
susan
9/11/08 3:57pm

Pink Floyd- maybe that is a no no.

9/14/08 7:38am

I love Pink Floyd...especially the song, "wish you were here."  Thanks for stopping by!

9/11/08 4:51pm

i've always loved blues music, but even when it was about tought times, being left by your baby, being broke, whatever, this music doesn't make me sad, and i don't seek it out when i'm down. i prefer silence when i'm low.

 

and having been, in a former lifetime, a writer of songs, i know, and have heard many others say, that it is far easier to write sad songs than to write happy songs. go figure.

 

and yes, breathe. that is, i think, the best advice in almost any situation. remember to breathe. or as a tai chi teacher told me, remember to not stop breathing.

9/14/08 7:40am

That is very cool that you know how to write songs.  I would imagine that would be a difficult form of writing.  Do you write the lyrics and melody? 

 

I really appreciate your comments. 

9/12/08 7:25am

This will sound shallow, music and my thoughts are my constants, but unless I am listening to a song, the words I do not remember for a time like this.

Many have personal meanings, because they formed in me associations with events and almost none have ever been shared. There is another Breathe, written by a Ms. Nalick, which haunts me. I've only heard it sung well once and do not think I will ever hear it again.

 

Instrumentals played an important part too. It was the sweetness of tones which invaded me, not always feeling better, rarely in fact for I applied it all to my mood and felt more melancholic. Still, I liked it, among nothing else, I enjoyed it and maybe, within, it would help bring me back.

When there was nothing else, there was music.

Sorry, can't pull lyrics from my mind at the moment; they're there waiting for the appropriate time. You've chosen well enough for most, anyway.

9/12/08 7:24pm

Paul,

 

I am much more closely tied to the sound of the instruments and how they blend.  I rarely will remember words to a song or even focus on them while listening.

 

It's the interconnectedness and blending of tones which speaks to my heart.

 

Lisa

9/14/08 7:45am

I understand...I forget the lyrics too.  This is why I look them up all the time.  You are so right...you remember the tone and mood even more than lyrics. 

 

Thank you so much for stopping by.  I hope you do so again.

Anonymous
Bernie
9/13/08 8:00pm

You know from visits to my blog that country music is one of my favorite genres, and there is a country song for almost every emotion.  I often go there to relieve depression, searching for uplifting songs like Martina McBride's "Anyway," Garth Brooks' "The Dance" and Kenny Chesney's "Don't Blink."  Blues and swing blues are my real favorites, and they can be surprisingly uplifting, for the style and sound maybe more than the message.

9/14/08 7:49am

How can I forget country music?  Yes it is a perfect music genre for sad songs.  My mother played country music constantly when I was growing up.  Country music has really evolved from the days when I would listen to it on the record player.  It is almost more akin to pop music now.  I hope that doesn't sound offensive.  Smile  I usually don't listen to it much now but I will give it a try. 

 

I am so glad you came by Bernie...always good to see you.

Anonymous
Anonymous
9/13/08 9:09pm

For me there is no one better than Judy Collins. 

 

Her songs sound so deeply moody, so profound and so good for really pensive moments.  When I am in a bad mood or depressed it is easy for me to lose myself in her songs and music. 

 

I keep her best hits on my MP3 player just in case, so she is always there to call upon.

 

I don't listen to her all the time, but it is nice to know she is there when I need her.

9/14/08 7:53am

Ohhh yes she is excellent.  I like that Christmas one she sings..."I wish I had a river that I could skate away on...."  Sweet Judi blue eyes.  You have inspired me to go listen to her.  Thank you for sharing this with me. 

Anonymous
Jason Evans
9/19/08 10:43am

I gravitate to isolation songs.  Mad World by Gary Jules is a strange intimate one.  Also, Eddie Vedder sings a particular brand of angst that I sometimes relate to.

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By Merely Me— Last Modified: 07/26/12, First Published: 09/07/08