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I shall have to check out the site further. I have to admit, I have never really talked about my death preferences with anyone... i mean in an "official" way. And it need not be depressing really. One can consider that they have left things easier for the loved ones to handle. This would make me feel better when the time came... knowing they knew I thought of them. And part of that is letting them know my feelings and lifting the burden of the tough decisions. I shall have to get off my butt and tend to this.
It's funny, but I keep telling people what I want: please do not resuscitate me, harvest any organs that can be used, cremate me immediately. But you know what? I think I better get a will together because you never know. Neither my husband nor I have one, maybe because we have no children at this point.
My dad, on the other hand, has a living will and he wants to go over it with us soon. Tonight I'm taking him for his first radiation treatment for prostate cancer. His prospects look good, but you never know. He's informed me that my brother in charge of his finances and I am in charge of him. So I get to decide if and when the plug can be pulled. The rest I don't know about, but I'm sure I will find out soon. I don't look forward to it.
Oh my...so this topic is very on target for you right now. I am so sorry to hear about your dad. I know you must be terribly worried. It is so hard to think about all this and then things happen and we are forced to deal with it. You are so kind to come here and comment and especially with all you have going on. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Thanks, Merely Me. Dad's doing fairly well and this type of cancer is usually slow-growing. But still: it's Dad and it's very worrisome, even if I put on a facade of strength. I'm better at laughing than crying. Thank you for thinking of me and my family. I really like this site and I think it helps readers. We are all different, but we are still all human.
Fondly,
Jen
PS: I have this site linked on my homepage, and I linked your blog, but then I rethought it and wanted to confirm with you that you don't mind your blog link on my homepage. Again, I think it's a great source of inspiration, news, and fun for readers who might stop at my sight. Plus it makes it easier for me to visit!
About the links...that is absolutely fine. It would be great for others to come and visit me here or there.
I have heard that people who have that type of cancer...that they do usually beat it so...I am hopeful for your dad. You have so much on your plate...it seems terribly unfair.
anyways...thanks again for stopping by here. I really appreciate it.
Ok, Ok, I'll admit it. I can't seem to talk about this subject. In fact, a few years ago, my father wanted me to sit down and go over some "things" with him and my mom. Since I'm the oldest, I'll be the one in charge. I started to cry, and we ended up never having the conversation.
I'm going to save the link for Engage with Grace. I need to do a living will for myself also. Especially since children are involved.
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I've had no problem in discussing these issues, some often. The necessary people know exactly what I wish and I am at peace. Even if I should lose control of my life, I'm confident that what intervention could occur, is what I'd want and not more, or less.
The Plan, to call it that, needs reviewed and kept current too.
This subject should be as natural as talking about an impending birth. It is mutual respect to make one's wishes known and to know what is desired by other family members and to do your best to carry their wishes out.
So far, no one has asked to be shot into space around here, but give me time. :)
You are doing better than most then about this topic. I am quite uncomfortable discussing these things. But it is the responsible thing to do and you never know right? Anything can happen.
Shot into space? nah...too dramatic for me. Just keep me in a coffee can or something...sprinkle me on the flower bed.