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Choice of Boredom or Conflicts & Challenges in Depression: Slow or Chaotic Life?

Hey everybody!   It is time for a question.  Hope you all have doing okay.  This week has been up and downy for me...had a ton of Multiple Sclerosis symptoms yesterday.  I never know what to expect each day from either my physical disease or my mood.    I remember a ...
10/22/09 6:44pm

I'm going to have to say, I'd rather have NO depression and a challenging life. My life right now is boring, and I'm completely tired of it. The 4 walls I'm by are closing in on me daily. I'm more depressed now than ever. My life is boring and I'm sick of it. I've even thought of leaving my husband and taking my kids with me. I'm bored of my married life and I think because of it, my husband has fallen out of love with me and visa versa. I would NOT want my worst enemy to have the depression I have or any depression at all. My life was great 30 years ago, but now, I'm sorry to say, SUCKS!! I would give anything to be able to work a full time job, have money I could spend anytime I wanted to and on anything I wanted. I don't have money now, and I have no love in my heart as I once did. I hate my life, but not enough to hurt myself, so all of you can relax, I just hate my life and I'm hating people I use to care for.

10/22/09 7:03pm

I agree with you 100%!! My life exactly except no husband or kids. 

10/22/09 7:16pm
Well, I guess I'd have to say that I'd keep the life I have, I'm done with the workplace rat race and hope I never have to deal with it again. Things are pretty calm and I have just enough things to do to keep me from getting bored. I can live with the depression most of the time, it's tolerable with medication and it's when I'm depressed that I learn the most about myself and the things that matter to me. I'm enjoying my grandson (it's his first birthday today) and am hoping he doesn't have H1N1 because we're having a big party for him on Saturday. He's seeing the doctor tonight to find out - nice birthday, huh? I saw him last night, so if he's got it, grandma might get it, too. I don't care if I get it, just don't want him to. Anyway, some people would find my life boring but for me, it's a nice relief from years of chaos and politics. I'm sorry you two ahead of me wish for something different; maybe it's depression talking or maybe you really need a change. It's hard when you feel stuck.
10/22/09 7:25pm

Hi Merely Me,

 

Yes, I would definately like a simple life, not as complicated.  I would enjoy living in a small, slow place without so many billboards, traffic, noise, stuff....I try to make my life as simple as possible where I live...I would prefer simpler though.  Not boring but simple.  I  get great pleasure from simple things like watching the grass in the wind, ants crawling, or putting my feet in a stream.  So I don't need or really like all the glitter and glamour of a fast paced existence that is complicated too.

 

Thanks for your question

 

:)  Marishka

10/22/09 9:51pm

I don't like the question. Me thinks the question is more do you want to be honest or pretend?! There is no place in honesty for endless serenity. If you are honest about what life has to offer, you will admit you have choices everyday to move forward into unknowns or hold back into uncertainties. Either way you have to make choices. If you fail to choose, that is a choice. You must live with your choices. If you choose to be selfish, you will stagnate. If you choose to be of service, you must stand up and serve.

In serving you benefit by being a contributor. If you rely on others to provide what was yours to deliver, you shrink. Happiness comes from serving, emptiness comes from taking.

Learning to give graciously is the highest calling. Having something to give means staying in touch with yourself, and learning from and with others. All is level at the foot of the cross.

10/23/09 1:57am

 

Hi Mm and everyone

 

 

I wouldn't want a boring life, I like challenges, I wouldn't want to have the Depression back that I had before though. So I'd have to say a simple life without Depression. I've had enough drama.

10/23/09 4:04am

I would and strive to make my life as simple as possible.In the past when I took on to many things I became way to stressed.I AM not saying that life is simple but I can make it very chaotic just by over extending myself and taking on far more than I CAN DO.The point is to do what is most important to maintain a good quality of life.

10/23/09 9:05am

Thats exactly what I'm trying to do now, as I took on too many things before so I just concentrate on my family and whats important to me.

10/23/09 5:26am

I think depression makes you feel like you've got a lot going on but you've got nothing to show for it. To everyone else your life seems boring. To you it's annoyingly simple because of everything that you can't do since you have no energy with it all being sapped by depression. I mean to yourself it's complex too, but it's annoying how many things you can't do. So I think the question doesn't quite work - it's not either an 'interesting' life with depression or a simple life without. I would choose a life without depression, as I imagine most people would, and often I prefer the simple life and would love the peace of not dealing with what I have to, but it would be great if I had the energy to have the more interesting life that I think all my friends are having around me (even if it is just going to work every day whereas I have nothing to show for myself).

10/23/09 7:32am

In todays world I don't believe there is a simple life--I too like Merely Me not only have severe depression but also MS so if not problems with one its with the other! Some of our common problems between the two are fatigue, pain, helplessness and there are others so for people that several issues we wish we could have a simple life if nothing else for tjust one day--some days we have issues with both and those are the worst--I have had depression of some kind since I was a young child-but then it was that you were lazy or called boring or just kinda shoved asided-especially when there were other children as with my family-My family never realized there was any problems with my emotions until around 1989-at the same time my Mom was dying from kidney cancer so once again shoved aside--but I keep goin because I have kids and now see signs in my 10 yr old son who starts couseling in Nov, I refuse not to let this child who has a heart of gold fall thru those cracks as I did--he has his whole life ahead and want him to live it to the fullest with sad days-that what we call Mommys days! I pray all the time to get me thru each day and hope for the best!

So for all of us thanks Merely Me for what you do to help us come out

and face the day no matter what it holds.

ladygraycloud/Suzanne

10/23/09 6:28pm

Dear Merely Me, Hope Im in time with the ans.  I guess, I wish there wasnt SO much sadness in my life, but Gods plans arent my plans and he has his reasons. I guess if my life had been deadpan, Id been a perfect student, perfect parents, no spots, no anxiety, etc  Id be holed  up somewhere cosy and not really aware of the awful suffering going on out there with Depression and MS and Rheum.Arthritis and other illnesses. I think this Complicated life of mine has made me, hopefully, a better person, well not in worldly terms, not a success but its made me have more empathy for my fellow humans. 

Hope  your symptoms dont last too long MM.    Rosemarie  ps having a bad flare up at moment with hands. Think is to do with withdrawals.

Anonymous
Jonathan Steele, RN of Speechmastery.com
10/29/09 6:53pm

 

I am beginning to subscribe to the "nothing bad happens to me" philosophy.

This is because what ever happens to us can be a learning experience. This thinking will not work for everyone. As a scientist, there are resources open to me that are not available for most people that allow this point of view. It is just a philosophy. It is just a theory that I am trying out.

My depression connection was solved within about 25 hours of research. (My research is now considered ancient. But many principles remain the same).

My chronic bronchitis took about a year. It was more challenging as I did not really have chronic bronchitis. What I had was not recognized till a decade later as cough variant asthma. However, that too is no longer a problem nor has it been for over 15 years now.

Oh yea, no sore throats for over 15 years either. Thank Dr. Mogerman for this. He was a doc I worked for at my first hospital nursing job. (zinc lozenges do the trick)

A simplified life and boring life are not necessarily synonymous though. My life is full of numerous interests. However, it is rather complicated and a simple life would be easier.

You see, I am an artist. But that was not enough. I paint, sculpt in steel, carve stone, photograph, create found art and create functional art. I let the sand carved glass go for health reasons.

You can see my artwork at http://www.JonathanSteeleWorks.com

I also am a non-degreed engineer. Because of working on converting both my wife's car to a water hybrid and my home to a water hybrid heating system, there is no time to do art and this is the best season to be selling artworks.

You can see the supplemental fuel cell http://www.speechmastery.com/HHO-Fuel-Cell.html  here. It is on my kitchen counter. Have to take it off the car when ever it is worked on so it does not disappear.

It is still a work in progress. My Avalon only gets 48 MPG. I am shooting for 80-90 mpg.

We are hoping that my theory that works on the car will help us get our heating bill down from $250 to just $50 per month. This is nothing new. It is technology from the turn of the century. The 1800 to 1900 turn of the century. It just got forgot. I have modified it a bit from what is currently being done in this industry.

Then too, I am a nurse. Maybe a recovering nurse. The nursing profession is a passion but the politics, well they are another story. So, my health care career is mostly in the form of research and education and occasionally hospice nursing.

Then there is the book on hospice I am trying to write. It is mostly done. It is also terrible. Trying to get someone to massage it and make it into something sellable. This is the most painful as it takes so long for me to write and edit. And Dwaine Dwyer wrote Your Erogenous Zones in 18 days. Go figure, I am going to soon be at 18 months.

Somewhere in all of this is remodeling, painting, and fixing up a rental property to sell, in order to simplify my life.

Oh yea, I manage a few web sites and do public speaking too. You can find me at Speechmastery.com

And my research on health related issues at www.GlutathioneDiseaseCure.com

If your thinking how do I have the time. I do all this so as not to get bored. I have the antithesis of many diseases and syndromes, an inability to sleep. Unless sick, I go to sleep at midnight and wake between 4:30 and 5:30 to start my day.

It would be wonderful to sleep in. Don't know how.

It would be wonderful to be able to take a siesta. It would disrupt my sleep at night.

The only way I can rest physically is to spend some mental time writing or working on the web sites. When I am tapped out, reading others or creating posts for sites like this helps me take a break.

Yea, a simple life would be nice. I would like to know how to get there. And if you are thinking the grass is greener over here, well, consider this....it may be greener because there is a broken septic line. You get a bit closer and there are some major disadvantages on this side of the fence.

 

Anonymous
Anonymous
10/31/09 11:34am

I would rather have a boring life, which I pretty much have anyway, and am STILL very depressed.

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