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Vicki M
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Be strong
Chimiqui
Monday, March 17, 2008 at 09:55 PMIt sounds like both you and your mom really want you to get better, but have different ideas about what would help. I'm glad she is letting you get therapy. Your idea for exercise is also excellent, but if you can't go to the Y, at least try and do some exercising at home. I can tell that your mom really does love you, it's just that you are not coming at the situation from the same point of view. As a mom, I can tell you I would be proud to have a daughter who takes responsibility for her treatment the way you do -- I hope you feel good about how strong you are, and stay strong! There are a lot of us out here who care about you.
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Judith Foreman
Wednesday, March 26, 2008 at 08:42 AMAfter having read the previous comments, I'm afraid that what I am about to say will be perceived as out of line; but my reaction to your two letters is this: your PARENTS are the ones who need therapy ( and you, too, on how to deal with their gross lack of parenting skills and understanding) Are your parents alcoholics or druggies?
No mother in her right mind would say the things that yours has.
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samgirl90
Friday, March 28, 2008 at 10:55 AMThey smoke pot. But thats it. not anything too serious. And when they get home they drink, they dont get drunk very often. It doesent really bother me. Its theirprerogative, I mean if ti makes them happy then so be it.
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gretchen
Monday, March 31, 2008 at 10:56 AMWhat you have described I feel is an abusive situation for you. Depression and related illnesses are caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, and outside stresses and experiences. The stresses and experiences increase the chemical changes in your body and brain, so there is on an ongoing unrelieved problem.
You can not be on your way to improvement until your circumstances and surroundings are improved.
Discuss the situation with your doctor, and have him/her get your mother in for consultation as soon as possible. Your mother needs to know about the illness you have, and seek some relief for herself (she probably doesn't know she needs some help).
There are probably local support groups for you also. Join one and get some input and support from others who suffer from this illness.
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ABUSIVE PARENTS shoul be the subject for the previous
Anonymous
Wednesday, March 26, 2008 at 08:50 AMyour parents are mentally abusive.
And my educated guess is your depression stems from an abusive childhood; you show a.mazing wisdom and self esteem for having survived such a background
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samgirl90
Friday, March 28, 2008 at 11:03 AMIve had alot of support from my outside family. They've seen how they treat me and they don't agree with. When they try to say something to my mom, she just comes down even harder on me, so they gave up along time ago. I think my dad did the same thing too. I think he realized he couldn't win with her, so he joined her. But I keep in mind that Im in school and at work or a band thing away from home. And i get to leave in a couple of months. Im not going far but Im getting out of their house and becoming my own person. And when I think about me becoming responsible for ME and taking it all on my own, it helps make it through the nights fight and all. I think that it's their fault too. But I dont admit that. When I was in the hospital and mym om and my aunt come to visit me, they asked mhy I had cut myself, I told them because I wasn't happy. Then they asked why again. My mom asked "Is it because of me?" And I didnt have the heart to tell her yes. But it hink she knows. I appreciate your concern. Its nice to know you're there.
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gretchen
Monday, March 31, 2008 at 11:01 AM"Anonymous" is correct. You cannot improve in an abusive atmosphere.
(I posted another reply to another post)
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Recognizing how you feel
Susan P.
Monday, March 31, 2008 at 06:33 PMI did not seek help for my depression until I was 24. I think I was depressed as young as grade school age, but my parents did not do anything to get help for me. They just thought I was shy. They were concerned, but afraid, but uninformed (probably embarrassed!).
My mother was depressed and did not acknowledge it. She feels that her mother was depressed, but chooses to make the family connection.
Awareness is the first step. I wish I could have expressed my feelings and that someone had listened earlier.
Susan
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Allyson
Tuesday, April 15, 2008 at 11:01 AMGood for you. Keep talking to your mother, keep communicating. Also, keep in mind that it's not easy being a mom. Take a moment to walk in her shoes. It sounds like you have a good head, keep it up.
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Hi Ashley,
It's tough being a mom, but also tough being a young person too. I am glad your mom agreed to let you seek professional help. Only you and your doctor will know what is best for you. Perhaps once you see the doctor a few times, they will have your mom come in and together you can work through your issues? I disliked my mom for a long long time and it was only once I was a mom that I realised that kids don't come with owners manuals and parents don't always know what to do. But they do the best they can and when we get older we have to learn to forgive what we consider transgressions and move on.
The good thing for me is that there are alot of people out there dealing every day with some of the same issues that you are dealing with. It helps to know they are there, and also share what works, and learn from others when you need information about alternatives. I found several posts from people who very similar to you were just having difficulty determining what was causing the grief and how to work around it. Like Nikole who didn't know if she was depressed. Here is her post and the comments with it.
Let us know what works for you, or if you need a little compassion and understanding, post and let us know. Stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!
Vicki M
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