Connection between depression and a "falling out of love feeling"

I think there could definitely be a connection.  Depression can range from feeling nothing to anger and I think it's often actually trying to avoid the anger that causes the numbness.  You might be projecting the feelings you are having about your family situation onto your boyfriend without realizing it and then throw anxiety into it and it's quite a soup!  When I first started remembering some bad things that happened to me as a kid, I thought that I didn't love my husband any more and kept my distance, I was angry and too afraid to talk about it, partly because it didn't make sense.  But it really wasn't him I was fighting, it was my dad and my husband is nothing like him.  It took a while, a lot of tears and fear and patience, but we've worked with a therapist for a long time and it has helped us clear up so many things.  Now he knows what kinds of things trigger me into the past, but I didn't always know them myself.  Anyway, maybe your psychiatrist can help you sort it out, too.  Don't be too quick to think you're falling out of love; in fact, over time, that feeling changes into something calmer and steadier - I think we'd burn out if we maintained that level of passion forever!  Just wait a while and see what happens; you already know that when you're feeling better, the loving feelings return, so that might be a clue for you.

Hope this was of some help and that you'll be feeling better soon.

Hi there

You know...this is a question I have seen a lot here on this site.  And I am not quite sure what the answer is...I think it definitely depends upon the two people involved.  I do believe that depression can block our feelings of wanting to spend time with people and even people we love.  I am thinking that when you feel better...you probably do have those same loving feelings.  It is just hard to feel them when you are suffering from depression.

However...sometimes our depression is a signal that some things in our life need to change.  Your relationship could be one of those things.  It isn't a bad thing to re-examine what is best for you. 

What does your heart and gut say?  I like to ask myself the hard questions and then answer immediately whatever comes to mind...it is usually the most accurate answer.

I wish you the best of luck.  Let us know what happens.