Is there such a connection between depression and "falling out of love" or at least the feeling. I have depression and anxiety because of some semi traumatic family stuff that happened over Thanksgiving (or at least my psychiatrist concluded) I am seventeen and on Zoloft. I have developed this crazy anxiety over losing my boyfriend, or mainly even losing feeling for him. I get in these waves where most things with him are unsettling and unfamiliar, I dont feel sexual, I am not interested in doing anything besides watching tv and I get really nervous, cant look him in the eye, and cant really have a conversation with him. I also get really nit picky. This makes me feel horrible, it is my worst fear, having this all not be real. But just as I start to believe it all, I just snap out of it and feel all of my love and am not too nit picky, I feel comfortable and close. Its not perfect but it feels like a real relationship, and I feel more grounded and such when I'm in a good place. Can depression do this, or am I simply falling out of love. We have been together for a year and a half, and this started around December, along with all of my other weird depression/anxiety feelings... any help?
I think there could definitely be a connection. Depression can range from feeling nothing to anger and I think it's often actually trying to avoid the anger that causes the numbness. You might be projecting the feelings you are having about your family situation onto your boyfriend without realizing it and then throw anxiety into it and it's quite a soup! When I first started remembering some bad things that happened to me as a kid, I thought that I didn't love my husband any more and kept my distance, I was angry and too afraid to talk about it, partly because it didn't make sense. But it really wasn't him I was fighting, it was my dad and my husband is nothing like him. It took a while, a lot of tears and fear and patience, but we've worked with a therapist for a long time and it has helped us clear up so many things. Now he knows what kinds of things trigger me into the past, but I didn't always know them myself. Anyway, maybe your psychiatrist can help you sort it out, too. Don't be too quick to think you're falling out of love; in fact, over time, that feeling changes into something calmer and steadier - I think we'd burn out if we maintained that level of passion forever! Just wait a while and see what happens; you already know that when you're feeling better, the loving feelings return, so that might be a clue for you.
Hope this was of some help and that you'll be feeling better soon.