Hello, there.  Three children are a lot to take care of at your age.  I'm wondering when all these feelings of sadness started - has it been since one of your children was born, since you've been married, or most of your life?  Do you work outside the home, too?  It sounds like you might want to see a doctor to first rule out any physical problems that might be causing you to feel depressed (because that's what it sounds like to me) and then find a psychologist for a depression evaluation, if no physical cause can be found.  I think sometimes when you've got a lot of responsibilities at a young age, couples may stop communicating and sharing how they're feeling because you think you just have to cope with everything and if you even acknowledge how hard it is, it might make you feel worse.

I'm a grandmother now, but I went through some very hard times with my two sons and ended up feeling just like you - alone, with no one to talk to.  I did get help, though, from a therapist and a psychiatrist and eventually my husband and I started seeing a couples therapist, which has been a tremendous help in understanding each other so that we can be more supportive.  If you do have depression and it remains untreated, it's more likely to recur at another time.  If you get help early, you have a better chance of being able to manage it and perhaps avoid more episodes.

I wish you all the best and hope you'll let us know how you're doing.  You will find a lot of caring people on this site.  Take care.

Thanks alot guys for your support. I do feel a little bit better now. I actually do suffer from depression its just not constant. I have days were its really bad and days that I dont feel anything. I could actually go maybe even up to months without feeling any depression. Well I live in a town of only 1000 people just moved from the city where my family was at. I am 3 hours away from them. I also just started a job because i figured that it would help me a little with the stress I get with the kids. I actually have a very understanding husband and when I have something to say he usually listens, but sometimes i feel like I complaint too much and theres times when I keep my feelings from him. Its very hard to have date nights because we usually dont have the babysitting support I would hope for so it becomes difficult at times to go out without the kids. My closest biggest city is about half an hour away and im sure that I would find mom groups or something that would help me out but sometimes just the thought of the comute and the kids being with in the car crying or fighting makes me preffer to stay at home. I am on antidreppesent but theres times when that wont sto a meltdown. I feel very blessed to have found this site and I look forward to posting stuff in here and getting support like I did the firs time. You guys are great!

Merely Me, Health Guide

8/23/10 10:18pm

Oh hey there!

 

I am so glad you are feeling better.  I can see where you would be feeling lonely being away from family.  You will have to tell us how your job is going.  I do understand about the hassle of finding someone to watch your children.  I didn't do it for some years but once I did...it is a true blessing.  You will find that it does re-energize you just to get out with your spouse and get a cup of coffee or see a movie... or just have some alone time. 

 

Yes do keep talking to us.  I am eager to hear more about how things are going for you.