Writing my way to healthy attitude..

By DownInJTown Thursday, April 16, 2009

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After a really bad weekend of being down, the week has not been to bad. The constant pain I have been in is taking its toll on me but I know it is only temporary. This to shall pass. I am looking forward to the weekend with my grandson and daughter-in-law while the boy is away for his weekend drill in the National Guard. The weather is supposed to be nice and some serious sunshine always helps in the mood department. I remind myself everyday that I have so many things to be thankful for in life and I tell myself in the mornings that it's going to be a good day. It doesn't always work but I do believe it makes things a little easier. Self talk.......I think it can help if you remember to do it. We are all worth while!!! We can do this!!!

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Greg

4/16/09 11:08pm

Well, that was a very nice dose of optimism. It's nice to see someone kind of "turning the tables" and shining some light on the good things that depression slams the door on.

I really like your self talk comment. I truely believe we can improve our situations by paying attention to our thoughts and changing the way we think and look at things. Much like the eastern teachings and methods of being aware and conscious of ourselves, our thoughts, and how we process and ultimatly react emotionally to all of that.

With depression all those thoughts are all too negetive and I believe we can, to a degree, stop and rethink it all and push it more towards positive feedback for ourselves.

Thanks for the lift.

DownInJTown

4/24/09 11:18pm

Hi Greg,

Glad I could share some happiness here. Self talk is a good thing but seems to take alot of discipline and then believeing it. That seems to be the toughest part. I am desperately trying to get my life back on track and focus on the positive things in my life. I have rough days and good days so thank goodness the depression isn't bad every day. It has been a fairly good week and going into the weekend when I have more empty time on my hands.......well let's hope for the best. Thanx for the comment and let's keep moving forward.

Nolana

Merely Me, Health Guide

4/17/09 7:06pm

You sound good. I know things are not easy but you have a good mental plan to cope by focusing on things to look forward to. And I do like that saying..."this too shall pass." I find myself saying it all the time.

I am hoping that you have a lovely weekend. Maybe you can come back and talk about it come Monday.

Keep on writing!

DownInJTown

4/17/09 8:39pm

Thank you all for your support. The writing and reading the replys has been totally awesome. I do have to share a wonderful moment in time with all of you. My second grandson was born today and being there for his birth and watching my son become a father again was so fulfilling. Talk about a natural high! It made me realize that if we look at the wonders that are laid before us it can brighten our day and our attitude. What a glorious moment in time! We need to take time and smell the roses along the way........how uplifting. I hope this news brings a smile to all. We just have to keep going.

jpw2008

4/23/09 12:11pm

Thank you for brightening our day.If only we all could be positive it makes a world of difference. My friend whose nieces have a son and a daughter experiences that natural high you talk about.I love it when she talks about them in a positive light.She just loves her nieces kids just like her nieces. She are her kids all 5 of them.She is the nieces second mother and her great niece and nephew like she's ther second grandmother.

Love your enthusiastic optimism

Keep it up

Jon P Ward

DownInJTown

4/23/09 12:43pm

Children can provide the natural high that we all long to have. That day and the day my first grandson was born are memories that I can revisit when I need a lift. After a bad day or just feeling terrible about things a visit with the grandkids can bring a smile. I'm not saying that the smile stays on my face after I leave them but it is a temporary break I guess from my reality. Certain things in life can bring that warm a fuzzy feeling and those are the moments to hold on to. Thanks for the reply and sharing with us. Keep on keepin' on

Nolana

jpw2008

4/23/09 1:03pm

thanx Nolana,

I don't have kids,and not married.I grew up with a father who didn't want either of us.I try to be the polar opposite like my mother.

But for me,I like kids,If they get upset with me I don't do very well.

In I love kids,I just don't understand how to deal with them.

Thank you for showing me the bright side of kids.

Kids are precious,Should never be abused.

In fact they need unconditional love

A/T

Jon

DownInJTown

4/24/09 11:13pm

Hey Jon,

What an awful feeling growing up with a parent feeling like that towards you. I never knew my dad and my mom stayed close to an older sibling kind of leaving me to fend for myself and make my own way. I always felt like I didn't count or wasn't important. You are right that children need unconditional love and even the inner child in us is in need of that. It's funny as we grow we forget our inner child that still holds onto old hurts and we just can't seem to shake them. Let me know if I'm off track here, but I know it's true for me. I haven't been a perfect parent but I do try and let my kids know that I'm there for them and my grandkids will know the same. So much as a matter of fact that I forget that I need time for me. In my journey to shake my depression I seem to let myself down more than anyone. I'm trying to find a beginning point in my life to get back on track. It's a slow process but I know (and I keep telling myself this) I can do it. I don't always feel that way and the optimism isn't always there but I have to try. Keep writing and talking and I know we can do it.

jpw2008

4/25/09 8:34pm

Hi Nolana,

I never got married.I basically Thought no woman in her right mind mind would want me.

I messed around alot.

Never took it seriously.

I am proud of you.

You stuck by your kids and grandchildren.

Keep up the good progress.

I still feel kind of lost at 33.

Thanx,

Jon

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