To those of us left waiting

I just hope I can help someone, like you have helped me. And you are right, it is 'your' life, no one elses. When you can show that you can handle this illness, by knowing when to step back and take care of yourself, that is what gives 'em hope. Depression is like trying to perform an excorcism, but instead of wearing myself out only to make the demon stronger, I am stepping back and ignoring it. Eventually the beast will get bored and leave....haha.

*gushes* thank you ;} It really is true love, ever since we first met how we felt so comfortable around each other(we are both very shy people). I can not begin to tell you all of the 'signs', that are comparable to a movie when put together (he even accidentally has my name tattooed on his arm, if you look at it a certain way) I have a whole lot of faith and just 'know'.

He has been through alot, and no one deserves what I have to offer more than him. Sweetest guy around. No one deserves to go through this hell.

Thank you for the kind words. I have always been independent, so that makes handling all of this a little easier. I just know good things will come out of this some day.

I will look up EFT online, even to try for myself. Then in the future if my partner wants to try it, I could suggest it to him. Any info about it that might help? It's a form of hypnosis?

Well EFT is based on self-hypnosis and/or meditation techniques combined with what i would describe as use of accupressure points to tap into balancing of energies/emotions associated with memories within the body...I again could also say that this approach may be shared within the anchoring phenomenon in NLP - also interestingly both EFT and NLP use affirmations within their process. EFT however gives an incredibly interesting variation on the use of reframing(NLP speak)...EFT allows you to understand why some affirmations don't work...as you've not yet discovered the precise aspect of the past event you need to focus specifically on within the acceptance of the emotion and the affirmation. I would take the EFT process even further myself with past events that prove to be extremely difficult to identify the learning point needed to resolve the issue and thereby quieten the emotional response to new or current events. I would also meditate on bodily functions and sensations/energy flows and their movement around the body e.g. muscle groups, nerve fibres, organs, etc.  by visualising them and through mediation get to identify and rectify some pretty fundamental bodily reactions during anxiety and panic by learning to trust your subconscious once again to control bodily functions and give your conscious a rest from trying to control everything and being on high alert all the time causing the initial anxiety and panic and depressive responses. When strengthened in this way with more advanced clinical hypnotherapy techniques...it seems to be a very powerful tool for working on deep seated clinical as well as psychologically traumatic incidents. Have you found the website yet? If not I'll point you in the direction.

Not sure that this is a very helpful interpretation...anyway...

Good luck...and Bon Voyage!...on this journey of self discovery

Hypno

This is a personal opinion and no doubt the person who trademarked it would have something else to say on the subject.

It makes me feel so good knowing I can help someone while I am learning in the process. This is a good site to come to, with many caring and helpful people.

I've always been independent, and I just know he is worth this investment, he needs my love and understanding. This all works for me right now, letting him work things out on his own while I focus on me. The most difficult thing is every one else not understanding. It's hard for people to wrap their mind around the word unconditional.

You are a great friend for seeking out info, your friend must be special to you, especially if you have a decade invested. Read as much as you can, and just be there as an understanding and patient friend. Try to be encouraging without being pushy. They must want to help themselves, this is something we can not do unfortunately.