good morning everyone! i just discovered this site today. my husband & i had a blow up last night & i just don't know who to talk to anymore. i've been fighting depression since july of 2007 & it's been quite an up/down roller coaster, as i'm sure you all know. the hardest thing for me right now is figuring out how to deal with the emotions & hurt feelings of my husband. i have more of less come to terms with the fact that this is the way i am now, no matter how much i wish i wasn't. i take lexapro & it seems to help pretty well with my moods but my sex drive is in the tank. this is the problem with my husband, that's probably pretty obvious. i love him so much & i know it hurts his feelings that i don't want to be with him but i can't force myself, you know? & it's not that i don't want to... my heart & soul want to, but my body just doesn't respond anymore. i hate it! last night we had a blow up over all of this & he said some pretty hurtful things to me... i know he was just lashing out in hurt... but i need to find a way for us to reconnect. or a way to get my groove back. =)
i guess i feel like this is never going to go away & i'm scared that he might up & leave one day because he doesn't want to deal with it anymore. how do you deal with this? what do i do?
tia!
Hi there
I am glad that you found our site and just wanted to welcome you first of all.
I know...it is so hard to deal with depression in and of itself but nobody lives in a vacuum. We all still have relationships to also contend with.
I just wrote an article about depression and libido that you might want to read. There are some antidepressants which are better than others for not decreasing your libido. You may want to discuss options with your doctor. It is a hard call to make to weigh the pros and cons of any particular antidepressant. But there may be one which doesn't affect your libido quite so much.
Keep writing and sharing. We are here to provide support as much as we can.