I agree w/ judy. but I want to add that if the 1st(depression) is the prob. this could very well be his way of screaming out for help! Be there for him which it sounds like you are because you are here seeking advise:-) and INSIST( you have to be very very persistant sometimes and it can take time) he get a diagnosis so he can get the meds he needs to go on in life!!!!!! ITS hard it really is but hopefully you will catch him at the right moment and time and he will get his illness treated and the 2 of you will live a long and happy life together!:-) Good Luck, he is very lucky to have someone like you thats there for him and supportive and caring enough to ask for help! Let me know how things go, ok:-)