My son's girlfriend is bi-polar and also a drug addict. Her main goal in life seems to be to destroy every person she comes in contact with, even those people who have tried to love and support and understand her. The nicer she is treated the worse she treats you. I know a little about bi-polar and drug addiction but this girl seems to go beyond mentally ill and actually seems to be pure evil. Is there help for her and the people who have to deal with her?
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5/10/09 9:42am
Hi Linda
I think some people just push our buttons through their behaviors. It would be especially hard to cope with trying to be nice to someone and have them respond in destructive or self destructive ways.
I am thinking that for your mental self preservation that you should not view this person as "evil." This does not help you nor does it help her. You gotta just say to yourself that this is a person in need of help. And clearly if she is addicted to drugs...she is in need of help.
Make sure you have an alliance with your son. You don't want to alienate him due to any bad feelings between his girlfriend and yourself.
We have a Bipolar Disorder here on Health Central. Please do ask this question there as well. I think the folk there will have some greater understanding of what to tell you about Bipolar Disorder. Just follow this link.
I wish you the best of luck. There is no easy answer here.
Let us know how things evolve.
5/16/09 3:06pm
Hi
she needs therapy
Your son should leave her till she gets help.
The poor girl is in denial.
Please remember it's her mental illness talk
I've threatened to kill people, I've almost knocked a kid off his bike.
I know I'm mentally ill.
She may not outwordly show that she has a problem.
But is very hurt inside.
She has to have a wake up call.
Talk to your son about it
I don't know what else to say
I am depressed and may not say exactly what you want to hear
But I and the people on this site care
Jon Pat Ward
6/ 3/09 8:59am
Please do not think of her as evil, she is mentally ill and this causes her to act out in certain ways, she really needs help, all you can do is be there for her and your son when they need you.
Bi polar is hard to live with , maybe she needs to have her medications reviewed and also therapy
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