my boyfriend + i have been in love for almost 2 years. we support eachother + it has never scared either of us that we are w/ the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with, i know he is deeply in love w/ me + i him. he even mentioned to his mother that he was going to marry me one day. Depression runs in his family, he has had 2 episodes in the past before we knew eachother. the first time happened when he was graduating high school + all of his friends left for college + he went to community college. the other time it happened to him was when he went on tour w/ his band + he realized he wasnt going to make it as a rockstar. both times he saw a therapist + got better. He was prescribed Paxil at one point but said he had hated it + just made him sit around and smile while he didn't feel like himself at all. he has recently been feeling depressed. He is graduating college and has had a hard time at work. We've talked about it and I've reached out to his mother as well as his old therapist to see if she would be able to see him again. Unfortunatley she's not doing private practice anymore but gave me a recomendation for him that she thinks would be a good match.when we get to spend time together he starts to feel better and remembers how in love we are. But now he keeps pulling away + claiming there are problems w/ our relationship. i know its the depression talking, especially cause we haven't spent a lot of time together + he hasn't seen the therapist yet. He's been drinking heavily alone and doesn't call or text if we have plans and isn't planning on coming over anymore. i dont recognize him. hes like a horrificly sad zombie sabotoging our relationship. We've spent days together and he starts to feel less depressed and commuicates that he's going to see someone and we'll get through this together. Recently we had a wedding to go to, and he wasn't anywhere to be found. Both myself and his mother were frightened and eventually he came over to my house and said he didn't feel like going anymore. This is a wedding of a close friend and he was even talking about how much he was looking forward to it a few days ago. He came over + started talking about how he loves me but isn't in love with anything anymore + how he just wants to be alone. I sent him home to his mother after trying to convince him that its just the depression + that we will get through this. His mother saw him that night and they talked about everything. She said she was surprised he was so "whacked out" + depressed because she had only seen him when he was faking being happy. I know him better than anyone, is that why he was able to show me his true depression? Her advice to me has been to not talk to him for a week- which is like telling the sun not to shine. But I am giving him space. She made him an appointment for therapy this week. will he come out of it + realize how in love we are? We hadn't had problems prior to the depression + I miss him terribly. I'm hurt that he's pushed me away + it breaks my heart to see him like this. I know in my heart that we will get through this, but what if his depression has washed over his love for me?