I have a historyof depression, and there is a family history of post partum and bipolar. I'm 25 single with no children. No antidepressant or antianxeity meds have worked and I have given up on meds. I know i need to get to the root of the unhappiness but I don't know how to do that. I cannot afford a psychologist evn if there were one available. Where I live psychologists and therapists are in such high demand it's impossible for me to get an appointment unless i tried to commit suicide and i'm not at that point even though i think about it. How can I figure out what is making me sad or what will make me happy by myself? I want to be able to manage my emotions and see the positive side. Instead i'm constantly thinking about how much my life sucks and how everyone elses is so good. I'm not nieve and I realize this is selfsh and most others are worse off but it just doesn't seem that way in my head. I want to be able to be happy with my current situation HELP! O and I exercise 2-4 hrs a day and that doesn't help except to occupy my time.
Hi Bottom I was reading your post, I am not a doctor, nor do I claim to be one. But I am wondering; what is it about your life that is making you so unhappy; do you feel better after you cry. What is going on in your life that gives you pleasure, and what are some things that you enjoy doing? Let's talk about those things, then maybe we can go from there, if you want to. I just want to help and feel you smile.\
sherry/smomdukes
I think 1) it's the lack of successful relationships. I have found it difficult to maintain lasting friendships. The problem is even worse for romantic relationships, I am too shy or insecure to be outgoing enough to meet people. Even if I have managed to meet someone I find it impossiple to relax and be myself with out the help of alcohol.
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2) everyday I find myself "stuck" I feel like there's something I should be doing but I don't know what that is. It's like i'm bored but theres always something I could be doing house work going for a walk ect.. but the boredom is beyond that. There's a big change that needs to be made in my life but I have no clue what that is. I might feel a little better after I cry but it's extremely short lived (minutes to hrs). I enjoy being active and I do that almost everyday, what I don't have is people to be active with, i've tried joining clubs and classes with the intent of meeting ppl and having fun but i come off so stand offish i don't meet ppl. I characteristically get on a high when a new guy is interested but crash super low once they lose interest. which brings me to
3) When I do meet guys and they seem interested they quickly lose interest and it's damaging to my selfesteem because I don't know what it is about me that scares them away. that or i'm only attracting guys that don't know what they want or don't want to commit to a relationship.
OK, in my humble uneducated opinion, you have got to love yourself first. In order for others to love you, youhave got to love yourself. One thing that my father always told me, it is a poor frog that does not praise his own pond. Now I do not go around be conseided, I mean think about yourself, fix yourslef up. Take care of you. Do something for you. Put you first. This will build up your self confidence. People can sense a mile away when a persons self esteem is low. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but soon the gig will be up. So let us work on this thing one step at a time. Do something special for you. Forget everyone else right now. We are not looking for guys, new girlfiends, dogs, cats, or anything else, we are going to focus on YOU. Go and get your nails done, your toes done, buy a new handbag, a pair of shoes, a new skirt, dress, your hair done. If no one else likes it who cares, if you like it that is all that counts. We are going to make this abbout YOU! Step1
sherry/smomdukes keep me posted
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I think 1) it's the lack of successful relationships. I have found it difficult to maintain lasting friendships. The problem is even worse for romantic relationships, I am too shy or insecure to be outgoing enough to meet people. Even if I have managed to meet someone I find it impossiple to relax and be myself with out the help of alcohol.
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