my boyfriend and i have known eachother for 10 years though during that time have lived very different lives. we have now been dating for 10 months and have struggled through alot of issues. towards the begginning of our relationship, there were times he would go 3 days without talking to me. i have learned that during those 3 days, he was on meth. i knew that he had a past with these drugs, and that he quit before and could do it again. i did everything i could to get through to him and finally managed to get through to him after a difficult and long process. i knew that his attitude and altimate way of feeling would change a good deal and that it would be a struggle to get him to feel good again. but i now feel that he wont have the emotional stablity without the help of medication, this is a challenge by itself because he is against medication wich i find ironic due to his drug use... he once told me that he would try it and shortly after snapped at me and said "its real f***ing cute" that i cant try and let him fix it on his own. since then, hes given up and has relapsed. he has always smoked weed throughout our relationship and does to this day.  he is constantly struggling with his past, and his future goals. about 2 years ago he had a one night stand with his roommate and impregnated her. she smoked weed during her pregnancy and the baby was born without vital organs and only lived 3 days. this had a huge impact on him and still does. he has been witness to 2 of his best friends deaths and this to still has a huge impact on him. i dont know how to help him move on and live in the now. due to his anger issues, its very difficult to get through to him. ive tried being sweet and understanding, ive tried being firm, ive tried crying to him about "our fights". im not sure even the real reason of why we fight. ive tried havin a "sit down" with him to get to the bottom of it and it usually boils down to his awful past and the things he's been through.  when he gets upset he takes it out on me. he knows he does this and we've tried talking about it and in the begginning of these talks hes very closed off. but with enogh patience i can get him talking after 30 or so minutes. we've come to conclusions and came up with solutions but the follow through is non existant, and within a couple days we are back to square one. so my question is, is medication something that would help? is there techniques that i can try to get through to him. any advice would be greatly appreciated, im at the end of my rope, and hopelessly in love.