He is going through I really hard time. I think his job is causing major depression, and he doesn't feel like he can sort through it with me, and he is so depressed he isn't at all sure what he wants. He needs time and space to be able to clear his head. He wont talk to anyone, and he wont even say hello or anything. If I try to talk to him he will say to give him space. I really don't know what to do? I know he is the one I am meant to be with, and he knew it too before his depression. I think maybe he thinks he doesn't deserve me or he can't make me happy, and he doesn't want to drag me through it. I saw him in church and he acted like I didn't exist. He actually did take the time to do himself up for once so maybe he is still interested just not interested in talking right now. I am so confused and hurt for myself and for him. What can I do? Does anyone have any advice? I don't know if it is normal for depressed people to completely withdraw from the ones they love the most and not want to have anything to do with them. 2 weeks ago we were just talking about marriage. We were planning on getting married this summer.
Q: Boyfriend wanted a break due to Severe Depression, but now he has cut of all contact. Is this normal what can I do?
Hi there
This does seem pretty abrupt...if it was just two weeks ago that he was talking marriage. Was this something he initated or did you ask him to be married? Do you think he is scared about such a commitment?
It really is hard to say that someone is the right one...especially if that person is not wanting to have anything to do with you. I think it is a pretty clear sign that...this relationship is not going to work out. I don't want to be doom and gloom but you may be wasting your time waiting around for some sign. You probably do want some sort of explanation but are you really going to get it?
I would give him space and just focus on other things. If he wants to continue the relationship he will let you know.
I am so sorry this is happening. I know it must be very painful.
Thank you for reaching out here.
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Yah I didn't contact for like a week and a half because he said he needed time, but he acted like I don't even exist when I was in church like I never meant anything. He was the one that said he wanted to get married and been saying for like 9 months straight and we had announced it to a lot of people. I know he was scared about getting married he had said so, but he said that he knew I was the one for him. I just is so hurtful for him to be so cold and not even be friendly. I just don't understand this.