hi thanks for responding so quickly, first off, im not her only source of emotional suport, her mum is, and its not like i dont keep in contact, im prety much talking to here as much as i possably can, every spare minute really. befor i left she showed no signs of depression, we were like a perfect couple, or so we were told lol, i feel that we can wistand the distance, because one thing we need is for me to have a carear so she can either work, or i can support her if she choses not to work. i love this girl with everything i can possably give pluss a little more, and i would do anything for her, i feel uceless being all this distance and unable to try and help her, ive told her that she needs to see a doctor and asked her to go in today, and make them see her befor the appointment.  i think that me leaving was the trigger, i think it started with greif for me leaving then it turned into depression. i do feel so helpless all this distance. if you need to know anything else to try and help, please ask =)   thanks alot =)