Hi brandi   My heart goes out to you.   How are things now?   Although I am not married, I have been dating someone who displays similar coping mechanisms and I believe he is depressed as well.  He likes to take off on his own, thinking that will "fix" whatever he is going through, but it never has.   I always give him schnarios like "well what if we were married and had kids and you were acting like this???."    Everyone on this site is SO supportive and what I have learned is that the best we can do is encourage them to get help becuase we can't fix them or get help for them.   With a baby on the way, hopefully that will be enough to prompt him to feel an urgency to get help.   My boyfriend has agreed to go see his doctor, but since he broke up with me on the weekend, I am not sure if he's gone yet or not.   He promised me he would go because he said if there's one thing he's learned it's to listen to a woman when she tells you to go see your doctor.  I know once the doctor asks a few questions it will be obvious to her what the problem is.    Keep gently suggesting he goes to his doctor... and try to be there for him as much as he will allow.  Unfortunately the timing is bad, with a baby on the way.. this shoudl be the happiest time in your life but now I'm sure you have mixed feelings because of all this emotinal turmoil.   Although you feel alone, lean on your family and friends (and everyone on this site) for support and hopefully your husband will get help in the meantime.      Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing.  Thinking of you!