THIS PERSON BLAMES HIS WIFE FOR EVERYTHING THAT HAS EVER GONE WRONG IN HIS LIFE AND SAYS HE WANTS TO DIE BECAUSE NO ONE LOVES HIM OR CARES ABOUT HIM. HE IS AN ALCOHOLIC THAT WILL NOT GET ANY HELP AND BLAMES HIS WIFE MAINLY FOR HIS DRINKING. THEY HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 36 YEARS. SHE WORKS AND HE IS ON DISABILITY DUE TO THE ALCOHOL. WHEN SOBER HE ACTS IF NOTHING EVER HAPPENED WHEN HE WAS DRINKING. HOWEVER HE ALMOST IS ALWAYS IN AN AGGITATED STATE, WHERE HE YELLS AND SCREAMS AT EVERYONE FOR NO REASON.
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Q: disabled alcoholic with no medical insurance threatens suicide what should I do?
Answers (3)
7/ 7/09 11:10am
Kat,
Bless your heart! This situation is beyond difficult. When he talks about wanting to die, calling a suicide hotline or the police is probably the best thing to do. The police can take him to the hospital, where he can be held for a bit to evaluate his mental and emotional condition. Whoever hears him threaten suicide needs to make that call.
A couple of suicide hotlines are 1-800-273-TALK and 1-800-SUICIDE.
Al-Anon might also be a good source of help and advice on this. Their web site is http://www.al-anon.alateen.org, and there's a link at the bottom of their pages to help people find a meeting near them. It should also be in your local phone book.
Oh, and if he's drawing SSI or SSDI disability, he may be eligible for Medicare.
Hope this helps,
Teri
7/ 7/09 7:58am
Kat, you are a good friend, and tis is going to be a hard one. He really needs a social worker to intervine. How you will be able to get this to happen Lord only knows. But if you are able to talk with his wife, and then talk with someone at Social Services, they may be able to get him some help for his problem, since he is on disability. But it is going to be a tricky situation good luck. I work for Social Services, and I know that they can offer services, and they can probably have a male worker help him which will probably be better. It may be worth a try, but you guys will have to tread lightly. Good luck
sherry/smomdukes
7/ 7/09 5:38pm
Kat, maybe he needs to be by himself and give you room to breathe and not be depressed yourself. My dad killed himself and it was very hard but, I learned not to take so many problems on my shoulders. If u love someone it is so hard tough love. I would rather see her leave than feel there isn't a way out. God bless us all-Ilgy
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