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Saturday, September 12, 2009 Izzy asks

Q: Need help: What's wrong with me?

I'm usually a very empathetic person, always trying to see how others feel and understanding their views but for the first time I feel like something inside has turned off what part of me deals with emotions. I know this sounds odd but I can't feel anything like I have thoughts in my mind that should be making me so happy and events going on around me that use to make me cry but I don't feel any of it.

 

I feel blank, sort of like theres a wall around me keeping the stress out and my emotions well in check. It sounds not so bad if I consider how I feel during a panic attack or breakdown, but given the circumstances I'd think I;d feel something. You see my friends mother is dying, they found out today, after hearing she was going to be find the doctors told my friend her mom has cancer and isn't expected to make it. I worked with my friend and her mom, we living in a pretty small dot in terms of what people consider a city so everyones connected somehow, yet I don't feel anything.

 

I have thoughts that tell me that I should be upset,or atleast sad about the situation and able to be my friends shoulder to cry on... but I'm not feeling anything about it.. no tears no hurt nothing, and considering I cried when my fish died you can see my sensitivity level is usually well past being average. Likewise if you look at all that should be making me happy in my life you'd wonder how I'm not smiling or in some cases dancing in the streets but again theres nothing.

 

I feel numb and it's scaring me what do I do...

 

P.S I know that some medications from experience and course related material can cause this kind of symptom but I've not been on anything for over a year now so that can't be whats happening to me.

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Merely Me, Health Guide
9/12/09 9:30am

Hi Izzy

 

I don't think there is anything wrong with you.  I think you are just...in shock.  Do you know your friend's mom very well?  Have you had to deal with this sort of loss in your life? 

 

I am not a therapist but I am thinking that...the defense mechanism of shock and numbness has taken over temporarily.  It is a way to protect you from an overload of feeling.  I have been in many situations where I would feel blank or empty and I would also tell myself, "Shouldn't I be feeling something?"  If we went around weeping at every sad thing in the world...I have a feeling we would not survive. 

 

You are a good and compassionate person.  You are just a little numb right now and that is okay.  I have a feeling that something on a lesser scale of emotion will prick you and you will feel it acutely...and all the feelings you have bottled up will come out like an avalanche.  Just be prepared that this might happen.

 

Nothing wrong with you Izzy.  You are just...human. 

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9/21/09 6:54pm
You are depressed...that's why you feel nothing...if you can be mindful for a while...relax ...(if you can)...I have given techniques for this elsewhere in my answers to others in this community...if you can't find them then contact me and I'll pass the techniques on....and then relax into allowing that blankness and give yourself permission to accept any insights that you may gain...don'tforce them just let them happen..naturally...parts of associated memories will occur.. an object here an emotion there...then another object or word...they will seem illogical at first but just allow your thoughts to come and go ...and soon a vivid incident will emerge with a kick of emotion...just allow yourself to feel it...knowing it WILL pass. A thought will pop into your conscious/logic...and that will be your point of learning. Enjoy it! Let yourself feel it! Reply
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By Izzy— Last Modified: 12/24/10, First Published: 09/12/09