How do I get over this horrible fear and obsession with death and dying? It never used to be a problem for me, but now I am a Paramedic, so I see it in it's worst way every day, and 17 months ago, my granny died, and I still haven't dealt with that. She was closer to me than my own mom. Things don't feel the same, I don't feel God around me, I cry all the time, and I worry all day and night when my last breath will be, where will I be going, what will happen to my children, will I know them in the afterlife, IS THERE an after life, why are we here, does it hurt, etc...the list goes on and on, all day long. I just want to enjoy life and not worry about death and dying. How do I stop it?Thank you.
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Q: obsession and fear (diagnosed with depression)
Answers (1)
9/28/09 10:33pm
Hello Sarah
You really have one of the toughest jobs I can imagine. I am sure that you see it all. How long have you been a paramedic? Did your fear of death happen after your grandmother died? I am not a therapist but from what I understand...the fear of death is pretty common but when it feels debilitating...when it is interfering with your normal day to day functioning then...it is time to do something about it.
I am wondering if you work provides any sort of counseling to help with this. If not...would you be accepting of seeing a therapist on your own. It sounds like you need to do some grief work which will probably help. Do you have general anxiety outside of this topic? This may be another area to work on with a counselor.
Some people, when faced with this fear, begin to explore their spirituality. What do you believe and why? There is so much in the way of philosophy and spiritual readings that may provide comfort to you.
As you know...death is part of life. Every single living thing will die. So we need to focus on the living part while we are here. I believe you have great purpose and meaning to your life. You are making a difference and that is what it is all about.
Let us know more....as you are able to tell your story. We are here to listen. Thanks for reaching out on this site.
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