My partner was diagnosed with clinical sepression last August. She was on a coarse of Lexapro & counseling which both ended about a week ago.She's now trying to move on with her recovery on her own. I am usure how wise this is but I understand it's not unusual. Right now she has shut me out and I am trying to give her space & time since it seems that's what she wants & needs. Does anyone have any advice for me or am I being blind about this situation & should perhaps consider letting her go. She says she is a changed person & her fundamental world view about life, love, & relationships has changed. She says she has changed & is no longer the same person. She says the only thing she got from counseling was that she has 2 gaping holes caused by 2 incidents with me when I broke things off with her during my own distressed times. She doesn't believe there's anythign wrong in her brain now, but that it's her heart. She now wants to find her zen in her own way & time but doesn't want me "gone" either - wants me to be available online for her - me work on me - she work on her & we meet in the middle again someday. I have been in counseling since this started & still am. Is this a familiar part of depression or am I being blind & naive? In the meantime I still provide emotional support via email, texts, notes, voice mail messages, etc. She responded once but had essentially shut me out since. Any insights from anyone would be appreciated. Thanks.
Q: Is is normal for depressed partner to shut you out and recover on her own after ending couns & meds?
Hey there
Okay so what you are telling us is that she is not doing meds or counseling anymore and she is considered recovered? And now she is not talking to you so much? Were you living together?
This must be so hard for you...waiting around to see if you still have a chance at a relationship.
What does your heart and gut tell you?
And what do you want to do at this point?
You have to live your own life despite what others do. Your happiness cannot be contingent upon this relationship. She may come back or she may not. Seems like she needs some space to figure out what she wants. Take this time to figure out what you want as well.
This seems to be a very common theme. My heart goes out to the folks who are left...waiting. I am sorry you are going through this.
Let us know what happens. And thank you for your question.
hi you dont say wether she is considered to have been recovered ? o wether she has decided to stop these things -cause that can have different effects on ppl
if youve been having counselling maybe u should discuss this with ur therapist
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