Hello
I am so sorry you are in this situation. I am going to add to the very good advice that Judy has given by giving you some more information...I was in an emotionally abusive relationship when I was young which was turning physically abusive...and I wrote about how to get away. You may find my article here.
I am not a therapist but I can tell you that such situations never get better. I am hoping that you can find some safe way to get free of such a relationship. Are there any women's shelters near you? Any friends or family who can help?
Please let us know if you need any more information. My heart goes out to you. Keep writing here to tell us how things are for you.
Hi!
Oh my goodness...your story brings tears to my eyes. I am so glad to hear that you got out. You have so much courage.
You can move on...absolutely.
No more fear...no more abuse.
Now you can live your life.
Thank you so much for writing back...you are an inspiration to every woman who is in this situation.
Please write here any time...we are happy to hear from you.
MM
You are in quite a spot, aren't you? Don't know if I got everything you said correctly, but I think you are still married? Do you want to get away from him? Is there a women's shelter you can got to in your area? Here are some hot lines you can call if you are in the U.S.:
HotLine Numbers
to get help (1-800-273-TALK (8255)
1-800-784-2433
1-800-799-4889
It sounds like you could use some help right away - call one of these numbers if you can't get any help locally. Do you have a friend or relative who could help you at all? I'm so sorry you're having all of this happen to you. Don't give up, keep writing and let us know how you are doing. The people on this site are very caring. No one has the right to control you. I hope that things start changing soon for you, I'd like to hear how you're doing. You don't deserve to be treated badly.
go to your local shelter for women, then go to social services and let them know your situation. get checked out medically and let the police know you are not the one who hits him, it is the opposite and you are glad to be away from him. do not lose hope as long as you have breath in you, there is hope....for help...for helping yourself. The local community college and or a therapist at the local mental health facility may be able to coordinate what you need to further your skills to get a job if you are capable of holding one down. Vocational rehabilitation will be one place you need to contact to see what you are qualified to receive help with to become employed. All the future is waiting to be fulfilled. If you feel depressed, it seems you have many reasons to do so. Medications may help, but taking action against the immediate circumstance at hand will let you feel more confident that your side of life is being heard. Police report first about his abuse, this way he will be assured of a court hearing to let him know you are going to lay down and take abuse any longer.
I have faith that your future is so much brighter than you can see right now. Take one step at a time, and living quarters are necessary away from him. Praying for you.
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Thank you for answering me a few years ago ! It has taken me until now to move on and file for divorce everything you wrote is so true the good news is after all this he did get so abusive that i went to the police, and to make a long story short he went before a judge who didn't believe a word he said .
It is very hard for me now and there are days im weak and very depressed but i won't take him back i just pray everyday that i can move on .
thanks again for caring