I will start out by saying he doesn't believe in depression, says it's for "weak minded people" . That being said, here's a little background: I'm 32 he's 28. We've been together for a year, he was always a VERY happy person untill stress just started piling up. His ex inlaws took his daughter to another state and now he's having to fight for custody that he already had in our state, i filed bankruptcy, his company sold out in August leaving him jobless, now he had to deal with the holidays without his daughter and still has no job. He's gotten rather quiet and not nearly as loving as he use to be. We use to have sex at least once a day but now it's once a week, if i'm lucky. He says it's not me, that he still loves me and is very attracted to me, he's just not interested in sex right now. We communicate well and rarely fight, our relationship has been fine.
A week ago today he woke up and out of the clear blue said "I'm going to moms for dinner by myself, it's time to move on" and told me he'd bring boxes from his moms house and pack his stuff and was moving out that night. He brought boxes home but didn't even take them out of the car. That night he told me it isn't me or us but he doesn't like himself and needs to work on it so we discussed a seperation and him just going to his dads for a couple weeks. The next day I got home and he had packed a few little nick nacks but said that was just to put on the shelf in his room to make it feel like him. We talked some more and we wound up agreeing that he would go to his dads and only take clothes for a couple weeks. Says he loves me and this is just a break for him to work on himself.
We've had a lot of stress over our time together and he's admitted that not having a job and relying on me to support him makes him feel less manly. Is he depressed? Am I doing the right thing by "allowing" him to go to his dads to "work on himself"? How do I show him I support him and love him without being in his face and putting more pressure on him. I want him to come home, I want him to feel better about him and I just don't know how to keep communication open without pushing him. Please help. . . .
