The first thought that comes to mind when I read your post is that maybe you are what is known as a highly sensitive person. Things may upset you more than for the average person. The good thing about being highly sensitive is that I am sure you are very empathic and compassionate. The challenge of having this type of personality is not to allow your emotions to overwhelm you to the point of not being able to function.
Is it possible for you to see a regular doctor...your primary care physician to get a good physical. Sometimes emotional lability can indicate an underlying neruological condition. Do you have any other symptoms? I would begin there to rule out any medical causes. You never know.
The next thing I suggest is to begin a behavioral log of triggers. What triggers the crying behavior? What happens after? How long do you cry? How frequent is the crying? Every day? Once a week?
Have you experienced any sort of physical or psychological trauma? Have you experienced a loss of any kind? Are you dealing with grief?
Maybe by taking data you can see some patterns emerge in your behavior.
How do your hormones affect things? Is the crying worse at certain times during your cycle?
There is a book recommended for people who are trying to regulate their emotions and is a Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook. Please know that I have not read this book. I cannot vouch for its usefulness.
Of course therapy is one option to help with your issue. Or even possibly medication.
Think on these suggestions and perhaps our members can also share their ideas. A lot of people are cryers. Some of us are simply highly emotive. Don't be too down on yourself as you are not alone.
Thank you for your question.
Hi, Lauren. In addition to Merely Me's suggestions, I want to add that if you live in the US, your county probably has a mental health clinic that charges according to your ability to pay, if you want to find a therapist. Your friends and your husband cannot be objective but a mental health professional can support you in getting to the bottom of your waterworks if it turns out to be emotionally based. Perhaps something happened to you as a child - which you might not even remember - that has caused unresolved grief which gets triggered by certain things. I'm sure it's difficult to feel like you have no control over your emotions, which can happen when we get overwhelmed or can't understand what's going on. This is a good place to come to for support, you can talk about anything that is on your mind and chances are very good that someone here has experienced the same thing, or something similar.
Hang in there and hope you feel welcome to write again.
My heart broke when I read your question and then to read more about your past. I am so sorry about what you have been through. Have you thought about seeing if there is a free service in your community, like a volunteer's in medicine? They may be able to help you find a therapist or some other suggestion as to where you could find help for free/low cost. I also wonder from the physical side of things if you could have a thyroid issue. I am not a physician, but I believe it can cause anxiety which could be a factor in your crying. I hope you can get some help somewhere. Feel free to ask anything or talk, I will try and help!
Since it has been so long since Lauren's orignial post, this is for others with the same problem.
I too had almost daily episodes of uncontrolled tearfulness if not crying. I am an adult with attention deficit hyperactive disorder and I am very sensitive, or, as some put it, I wear my heart on my sleeve. Then I got depressed and my doctor put me on Pristiq which is an antidepressant also good for A.D.D.. It worked fine. However, I decided after a couple of years, it was time to come off. (Warning: Prestiq is very hard to get off and they did nothing to help people with this problem). Now that I am off, I am not feeling depressed, but the tearfulness came back! It is sooooooo embarassing!
So, my suggestion is to try Prestiq.
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