Wednesday, January 21, 2009 Frank Duffey asks

Q: I dont know how to Change things in my Life I have tried but I cant?

I cant seem to change things in my Life?

My VA case manager came by here today she was worried that I didnt come in today for group they had a cook out and watched the Inogeration again today, I was not interesed in watching the thing agian, and I have been to all there cook outs just all the VA male patients in the Mental Heath MISA program, I was going to Volunteer this year but I was not chosen for the Volunteer job due to the fact that I had a Battery charge that was over 4 years old and involved my Dad and he droped the charge but the State did not I dont even live in GA and I cant even vist my Parents because of this MY case manager is working with the Judge there to have this removed it happened in 2005b before I was onmedication for depression, So I was not stabe at that time, they are working to have it removed but as it is That blocked me from going home last christmas I was here in my apartemnt alone. for the last 2 years I had a roommate last year but she was gone then also so this was the 2nd year I ws alone, and I was looking forward to doing volunteer work. So I dpont jhave that but I can go back to the Church I was visting I did go there and attended 2 fuctions they had seperate from the church with the members It takes me a while to trust someone I was abused by my ex wife, and I am tryi g to date but so far Not any dates I dont know who ton ask and I still fear rejection I had Brain Tumor Surgery in 2003 and that changed my personality I ws always outgoing and now Its almost that I dont care anymore, everything I try has not worked for the past 4 years and I am tired of being alone and not going out to BArs I have been sober for 3 years and I dont even like the meetings any more I have been around AA for a long time I picked up my first white chip in 1987 and I had 9 years sober before but I was married and that was when I was able to work and not disablied, I am on Metadone & Morphine I dobt know what wil happen if I drink But I am tried of all the AA meetings and being alone I have tried to meet women in AA and NA but I have given up on all of them there they are with thier Sponser who wants to tell them to stay away from the Men. So I am tried of that the new ones will talk to you but the ones I see over and over are cold.

Frank Duffey

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Answers (1)

psychoward1

1/22/09 3:16am

Hi Frank,

Sorry to hear your having a hard time. There are so many things that you can do to network yourself.

First of all a one on one counselor can help you with your problem with some ideas also but I thought Id throw a few at ya.

You said that you are disabled so I am not sure which disability you have but many organizations bend over nackward to help out.

1. Take a class at your local community college. Most offer classes you can take without looking for a degree. I am looking forward to taking more drawing classes when I can afford it(No Job right now).

2. There are lots of book clubs out there.

3. Depending on your disability there are lots of organizations out there that plan events and get togethers for people with disabilities.

4. Find a local singles club.

Look for a counselor that will help you with this issue. Or maybe even just a friend.

Pat