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Hi, I was just searching the web to maybe find some insight on a depressed spouse so maybe i can approach it with a little more understanding and less self blame. I read bot articles and realize that it is in them and not because of you. Here is my story: I and my spouse of 11 years have split because of the reactions she has to her depression. She put the blame on our relationship for her unhappiness and figured looking in the arms of another would make her happy. Well sorry to say that, like anything else that she would have thought would make her happy, was short lived and only added to the depression. When there is happiness it is from the outside such as material gains and compliments. She is sad and crys alot. Our realionship ws well fed and was growing, but she seemed to focus on the negative and magnify everything to the extent that it was the end all to a happy life. I pulled  my hair out trying to understand what was happening to her and us. Finally we sat and had somewhat of a acuall conversation and realized that there was never any real happiness in this womans life. She only knew what the dictionary told her.  I still have a life with her the only difference is i have a safe place to recharge when she drains me.  I try my best to be there for her but some days it is to difficaut to see her self destruct...i too have started to look for love in anothers arms becauase of what lacks in hers.