Hi Jay:   I would assume that you are taking an antidepressant, and if not, why not? If it's not working, then speak with your psychiatrist about finding one that works. With today's medications, there's no excuse not to do something that can help.   The next thing you should definitely do, is seek marital counseling. You can't change how your spouse is feeling about this situation, but a professional can. You can find one at Psychology Today.   Best of luck, Dr. Diana Walcutt   *Dr. Walcutt is a Psychologist. Dr. Walcutt's answers are not intended to diagnose or treat any medical or mental disorder. Any information given in a post about medication is for educational purposes only, and primarily to aid you in having an informed discussion with your own Psychiatrist/Physician.