I unfortunately am going through the same as the above. 5 months together and I've been dumped today, my bf was one of morals and respect the best guy ivve ever met he's 28, I'm 26. hes had depression for about 6 Yeats and visits marched priory, he knows what he has and has top help and reads books and meditates, I feel alot of the depression was well hidden within the first few months because what should have been him picking me up for the weekend turned into him in absolute tears saying sorry and that he's a very I'll boy.
I know the signs of his depression now and know I don't get much attention, calls, texts, coupleness wen together and he's taught me the signs as has always wanted to make it work with me,
I gave him the choice early on to leave the relationship if he felt he was ready but he said I may have it forever so there is no right or wrong time and I want to b with you
Today was horrible, he was all over the place crying in the car, I said we are a team remember, let's support eachother through this don't isolate yourself. If you care about them you take the high with the low. We talked and cuddled for about an hour and his main reason is that I don't deserve this, I'm too good and nice to have to be treated like this when he's depressed. I couldn't express anymore about the fact he was my future and I accept it
He seemed very sure and firm in his decision which is out of character and I wasn't upset as actually in alot of shock as I just don't know why and find it hard to not take it personally I am slightly I secure and he's always been by my side and such a support for me, he just feels sorry for me having to deal with ut all now ,5 months down the line. I do love him yet haven't expressed that not that it would make much difference
Non of his gf have ever understood and I think above all that's what he was looking for in a girl, understanding , honest and not after his wealth which is me and why we've been together.
My mum sujest I text him which I did
Just to say I still want to b with him and how I feel, so he didn't think I didn't care
She then said call him, tell him you think u should meet somewhere for a chat as just can't let this go after everything. he was blunt, huffing n puffing , sighing out of breath all the tail tail signs of depression and basically spoke to me like he didn't know me. and said he's said all he has got to say.
I don't think we should let it go, we are so compatible , we met via match.com as both knew what we wanted at this stage in our life's and clicked so well.
He gets very negative thoughts about loved ones when he is down eg they are just friends etc as they want his money etc ect, it's take me a long time to prove I only want him.
i feel I have taken it too far with the phone call
He has alot of my things in all his houses in which we will need to communicate over, I'm honestly not sure if he did it for my benefit but swears on his sisters grave no one else is involved which I believe
I'm sure it can only be he hasn't the energy for a relationship he said it's just not the right time, but when is?? When you have someone understanding? Which is infact all he's ever wanted
when he comes out of this depressive state he will realize, I think. But he may not change what he thinks, it's almost like depression never exsisted when he's good. he can rarely drink either as the instant effects it has
I want a future with this man and I don't know what to do, early only he did everything for me to understand his situation and to make me realize what he goes thro, past few days he's been doubting being in a relationship, it's horrible as I feel lost and disregarded. I've had depression 6 yrs ago so have a brief understanding but have learned. I'm starting to think maybe a couple of our light talking arguments have all been too much and makes me doubt anything he's said to me now
Like above, I'm horrified at the thought he will meet someone and give the whole relationship thing ago , again with someone else
I feel like I was pulled into this as he asked me out very early on and not trapped but pulled into a relationship and find it all quite unfair I'm being treated like this, that's what's unfair, not the fact I have to deal with his depression.
He was bullied years ago at school and his sister died. All of which he's come to terms with and not sure us the current reason for his down state. His dad is successful to say the least alot to compare himself with, he has everything and nothing makes him happy
I showed him the simple things in life and he enjoyed country drives and cooking for me, I want that back
And I really need some advice as feel I can easily slip back into depression or reclusive state if I don't see him, I'm independent and want him, I don't need him. he's always reassured me, so what's different now?
Shall I wait till next week when he's come out of it or do you think he will 'think' the same, He has realized before some harmful things he's said to me whilst in a depressive state and said sorry, but he's 28 and only had short relationships he said I'm nothing like he's ever experienced before, yet am starting to feel Carst aside like the rest
I appreciate your help if you have time. thanks