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Consequences

Ashwita
05/18/08

Ive been living with depression for 8 months now. With the therapy and medicines im much much better now. The problem is that while i was still learning to cope with it, i treated my boyfriend really badly. on my bad days ive even hit him and gotten into fights for unneccesary reasons. I used to yell at him and get angry for everything. Simply put i was a disaster to deal with then. Anything even the smallest of things would set me off and then it was like a bomb ticking and finally exploding. He had to bear the brunt of everything. 

But now ive learned to deal with all that and i dont act like that anymore. I hardly ever get angry and even if i do i dont yell, i dont "lose it". But now it just seems like my boyfriend will never forgive me for acting the way i did then. It doesnt matter if i tell him that, the person then wasnt me, but he still cant forget the way i acted then and all the things i did then. He now always tells me that i dont have the right to say anything or have a problem with anything now because of the way i acted then. And now he gets easily upset with me and everytime i say anything to him that he does not like, he gets upset and keeps telling me that i dont have the right to say anything to him. He is absolutely amazing otherwise and ill never be thankful enough to him for dealing with me and loving me as much as he does to have tolerated my behavior then. This is the guy that i want to marry, but i dont know if i can deal with the fact that he constanly brings up the way i acted then and thinks that because of that i have no right to say anything to him now. Is this a normal reaction for him to have? Will it pass and is this just temporary? Please help me because i dont want to lose him...

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Deborah Gray
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Deborah Gray is the creator of the Wing of Madness depression site
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Deborah Gray lived with undiagnosed clinical depression, both major...

Monday, May 19, 2008

I'm right there with you. I lost a fantastic boyfriend because I was suffering from a major depression and treated him badly. I didn't know what I was suffering from till many years later, so I don't know if he would have forgiven me once I was diagnosed.

 

It's a little troubling that your boyfriend is still bringing this up. Maybe you can explain to him that anger is often part of depression. It might be helpful if you guys went into some short term couples counseling. I know from experience that it can be very effective.

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